Boyfriend's staying.a friend comes along.
I am a 22 yr old girl. I have a boyfriend. He works on the riggs so is gone 2 weeks, home 1 week. It is a new and exciting relationship. He lives mostly in a different town when he gets off work but since dating he plans to stay in my city with friends, or me. This time we decided to have him stay here at my place. My friend needed a place to stay after her dad and her had a falling out and so she came here. My boyfriend doesn't know yet. Tonight he was to come late because he has to drive 5 hours after work, and then he'd be here. It happens to be late, but he plans to spend the week. Anyway, I told my friend and said just so she knows if he stays over I might ask her to sleep on the couch (as she usually prefers anyway) and she got defensive and said, "why so you can have sex? Thats disrespectful while im at your place". And I said "i can't promise either way." and she asked if I wanted her to leave and all that, and I said "no, why are you being so dramatic?", and the argument was on! I tried to just express that as a consenting adult I will do what I like in my room with my boyfriend. She said it was selfish and disrespectful; okay so the debate begins... should I have never said to her that I will have sex at my place if I please? Was it disrespectful? Would you tell your bf; " no sex this week my friend is now staying here?" There were no set/formal plans to room she just came and I said OK... then her stuff was moved in. she left tonight and I said she could stay, but she called me a . Might this be her stress talking? Or am I just a bad friend? Thanks:confused:
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Thanks... I feel better... felt like I was being a bi*0tch to my poor (homeless) friend!