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  • Aug 7, 2011, 05:02 AM
    volcolmgirl
    My new boyfriend of 2 months and my 1 month pregnancy.
    Me and my new boyfriend just started dating (2 months) and I already think I'm pregnant. Im skeptical because were still getting to know each other and I'm scared that later we're going to realize that maybe we don't mesh together, but do I tell him and keep it? Or not tell him and not keep it. Is two months too short of time to have someone's baby?
  • Aug 7, 2011, 05:11 AM
    Curlyben
    As mentioned on your other threads you need to WAIT and stop stress about things that simply might be rather than definites.
  • Aug 7, 2011, 08:15 AM
    TheCompromiser
    A lot of this has to do with you belief siding with pro life or pro choice. Honestly, would anyone choose to have a baby with a guy that fast? You're right, it's almost impossible to know if he's going to be your soul mate this soon, and the fact that you're not sure speaks for itself.
    If you've tested positive, I would talk to him, but tell him that you're not so sure if it's a good idea to keep it, and ask how he feels about it. I know many guys will just take off this soon if you plan on keeping, but who knows how he is..
    Lastly, are you sure that YOU are ready for this. When a you bring a baby into this world, it's no longer about you. Forget about school, traveling or living a carefree life for at least 18 more years. You won't get much sleep for the first year, and you'll need a babysitter to leave the house for the first four. You have to watch them all the time, and your entire world is focused on making them have a good future. Not to mention expenses. These little guys take a huge chunk out of your paycheck. Even if you had a successful baby shower, your still paying for a lot. Check out this site to see http://www.I-am-pregnant.com/encyclopedia/Babies/Baby-Cost-Calculator/ .
    To be completely honest, I've decided that if I get pregnant any time before 28, I will get it aborted. It seems selfish, but I don't want to take away my life and ruin the quality of a babies life too. My mother had me at 16, and so my childhood was pretty bad. I've seen my aunt keep it (starting when she was 17) and my cousin is having such a rough time with her one year old (at 18). I had many friends on Facebook that have kids (unplanned and early) and I took them off my friends list because I was so sick of seeing them say how tired and bored they are. And all of them asking for baby sitters and going on complaining everyday. It's depressing to watch, and upsetting because this baby didn't ask to be put on this earth. The mother complains, but the baby is helpless.
    If you do keep it though, be a good mom, and live for your baby. I'm fighting bipolar disorder now because my mother didn't put me first.
  • Aug 7, 2011, 09:52 AM
    Homegirl 50

    If you are not pregnant, you need to be on some birth control.

    If you are pregnant, he needs to know and you two need to talk about what to do next. You don't really know each other and I'm sure a baby was the furtherest thing from your minds.

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