My partner, whom I've been with for six years, doesn't know how to tell his colleague, and minor that he takes a lift with to work, that he can't drive them anymore, since it interferes in his extra duties, and our life. A week ago I had an abortion due to financial. I will be 39 in two weeks. That could well have been my last chance at conceiving at my age. Now the colleague who is married is expecting too. Just found out yesterday. RIGHT NOW I'M HURTING so much that the thought of seeing any mom to be is just torture. Please help.



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That happened once to me- a co-worker moved in just around the corner from me, and she asked if she could ride with me to work. It went okay for a while, then she asked if we could drive through McDonald's because she missed lunch, which was quite out of the way. She would get angry if I was not ready to leave when she was ready to leave work. I finally told her that I was sorry, but I didn't want the responsibility of getting her to work on time every day, and she'd have to find her own way there. Simple- it doesn't require anything more than, "I'm sorry but I won't be able to drive you anymore after today", and leave it at that.

As to the abortion. There are expected, and unexpected consequences to making this decision, no matter how right it was for you at the time. Now that you don't have the worry of providing for a baby you cannot afford, concentrate on staying safe with birth control, so it doesn't happen again. It is a loss like any other loss, and in time you will recover. If you can get to counselling to talk this out with a counsellor face to face, that might be a good idea right now.