We have known each other since I was 17 (now 25) and he has been in the military for 16 years. (He's 33) We have been together as a couple now for almost a year. I do everything around the house plus maintain my children, business, and him. He is not intrested in having sex or showing me ANY attention. I feel so hurt and have no idea how to deal with the situation. During his last tour to Iraq he came back completely different and as soon as he got home is when we started dating. I know for a while the war thing was an issue but its almost like he's heartless. If we go out on the weekends he forgets everything "bottled up" and makes me feel like a million dollars... What's wrong with this picture is that's the only time I feel he cares. When he's drinking?