What would you do if your boyfriend lied about a female friend for years?
I've been with this man for four years. He won a free trip to Italy from his job. About a week before he was to leave (in April) I found out he was taking a girl with him. When I confronted him about it he confessed that she was a friend that he had known as long as we've been together.
I found out that he's been taking her to fancy dinners, parties and special events as well. He never asked me to go to any of these things. His excuse was that he didn't think I'd be interested in that stuff. He never mentioned her name. He had other female friends that he talked about a lot but he never introduced me to any of them. I never minded because I trusted him completely! This girl was a secret. Why?
When I found out he was taking her to Italy I flipped and told him if he took her I'd never see him again. He said OK and agreed to uninvite her. A couple of weeks after he got back I found out (her Facebook pics) that he did take her and told her not to post the pics so I wouldn't find out but she did anyway.
I know they never slept together. I do think he's infatuated with her although he denies it. I think she knows this and plays into it to get all the good stuff he can offer like movie premieres and expensive events.
I know I should dump him because the trust is gone and if he respected me this would never have happened. I think this girl is playing him for a fool and doesn't care one bit about being his real friend. She is 23, I'm 31, he's 43.
He thinks this is all OK because he didn't sleep with her and because he didn't think I'd want to go to all the stuff he took her to. He never asked me to go to Italy either. He thought I'd say I couldn't go (which is right) but I thought he was going alone. He never mentioned that he could take someone.
I can't get over it. He refuses to end their "friendship" because he says that's all it is.
He still talks to her and sees her.
Does it matter that he didn't sleep with her? What would you do if you were me? I know he would dump me if I did this to him.
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