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  • Jul 31, 2011, 02:43 PM
    hazeleyes91
    I told him I have deep feelings for him what should I do?
    I told my boyfriend that I had deep feelings for him a couple of days ago and now he's ignoring me I called him left voice mails sent text and nothing I don't know what to think I didn't say I love him I said I had deep feelings for him
  • Jul 31, 2011, 02:49 PM
    Wondergirl

    How long has he been your boyfriend? How old is he?
  • Jul 31, 2011, 02:50 PM
    hazeleyes91
    Comment on Wondergirl's post
    A year and 5 months
  • Jul 31, 2011, 02:58 PM
    Wondergirl

    How old is he?
  • Jul 31, 2011, 03:00 PM
    hazeleyes91
    Comment on Wondergirl's post
    40
  • Jul 31, 2011, 03:02 PM
    Wondergirl

    Have the two of you ever exchanged "I love you"s? Or has this been more of a friendship?


    Most of the guys I know would say "deep feelings" are scary sounding.

    Leave him alone, don't contact him any more, and just wait.
  • Jul 31, 2011, 03:05 PM
    hazeleyes91
    No we never exchanged I love you

    Do you think he will call me?
  • Jul 31, 2011, 03:09 PM
    Wondergirl

    I posted the same time you did, so read back one post to see what I said.

    Does he seem committed to the relationship? A year and a half is quite a long time to be together without "I love you."


    I don't know if he will call you, but he's more likely to if you back off than if you keep contacting him and sound needy.
  • Jul 31, 2011, 03:13 PM
    hazeleyes91
    Comment on Wondergirl's post
    Thank you
  • Aug 1, 2011, 07:50 AM
    Jake2008
    After almost a year and a half dating, most women would expect some sort of progress, or indicator that the relationship has progressed past the 'like' or 'getting to know you' stage.

    Telling him you have deep feelings for him, shouldn't be a surprise to either of you. I'd say that you've only communicated to him, what should be obvious after such a period.

    I think it is good that you told him how you felt. That he bolted is a good indicator that he does not feel the same way.

    Maybe the plus side of this is that you found out now, instead of waiting another year and a half to tell him how you felt, only to have him run.

    If he does contact you again, please talk to him and find out how he does feel about you. And then proceed with caution.
  • Aug 1, 2011, 10:16 AM
    hazeleyes91
    Comment on Jake2008's post
    Thanks you I will and I'm hoping that he does call

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