Hi I've been reading this site for the last 2 days because I got dumped after 1.5yrs just before my birthday right out of the blue. I noticed her nit picking and trying to create arguments over the last few weeks (usually a sign something's up?). The more times I think or write that down the more I realise I didn't know this girl at all and I was a blind fool. My instinct tells me she may have met someone else but since we lived together there wasn't much opportunity so I guess it could have been online. I take it I will never know until it pops up on FB in the coming weeks.

I'm hurting right now but I have not contacted her at all over the last few days and I don't intend to until I am strong enough to make proper judgement if I would want her back or if I want to move on but what I want to know is how do you deal with the present concerning facebook/texts/emails?

Do you delete them?
Do you block them?
If they post on your wall do you respond?
What do you say with if they suggest getting back or they made a mistake within the no contact period etc?

I would just like to be prepared for these situations even if they don't arise

I'd appreciate any reponses.

I would just block her right now from fb because waiting to see what she post on her or your wall is just doing more harm then good. As you said the signs was there and even though the two of you were together for 11/2 years sometimes people change and you might not even know why.

You delete and block-and have zero contact.

That's what NC is,so that you can heal and move on.

She broke up with you-''you don't know her at all''-leave her in the past.

I would delete and block her and any of her friends. I think you need to take time out for yourself to heal and think. Writing it all down does help you see the rationality of a situation. Maybe in the future you will see her and decide *** was I doing, or you might reconcile. Who knows. The best thing you can do for yourself after a breakup is take care of yourself. Go be with family and friends who love and support you.

In my experience, when you get dumped for whatever reason, disappear from the exes life, and do your own thing. Be busy and unavailable for any drama and confusion, and regroup, and rebuild.


Do you delete them? YES!!
Do you block them? YES!!!
If they post on your wall do you respond? NO!!!!
What do you say with if they suggest getting back or they made a mistake within the no contact period etc?
Define NC period?!!! Is this a mutually agreed on time?? Doesn't matter to me I am to busy doing my thing and have always been against being dumped, instead of talk to. Don't look back.

I never told her the time frame. I just told her that I wanted time away and maybe on down the line we could be friends. Thanks for the responses. She is coming to collect her stuff this week. Any ideas how to handle this?

Also I took your advice and deleted everything. Going to be a rough ride.