I have a friend who has ended up to be a boyfriend... We both care about each other and can do anything for each other... but a blunt truth we know we will end up being friends only... and its true that we have shared love you's amongst each other... when either one of us gets upset then the other gets affected too.. and that's vice versa when either one gets happy... Apparantly I feel he has got upset with me, but he says he's fine... which doesn't convince me at all... I want him to be happy always... because I love him more then anything... but I end up upsettin him... please help on what I should do now... so that he is happy...

What do you do that he decides to be upset over?

We talk almost all the time continuously since we wake up until we go to sleep... everyday since we met... he gets upset when at times I get busy with some stuff... and when he specially needs me... he is very nice and I love him... but I don't know why it ends up this way... though its not very common that he gets upset... but when he does then I feel very very guilty...

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Originally Posted by sanya121

we talk almost all the time continuously since we wake up until v go to sleep... everyday since we met... he gets upset when at tyms i get bzy with sum stuff... and wen he specially needs me... he is very nice and i love him... but i donno y it ends up this way... thou its not very comon tht he gets upset ... but wen he does then i feel very very guilty ...

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So you can't get busy with stuff? You have to pay attention to him all the time? You can't have a life away from him?

How does he need you?

Is he happy you feel guilty?

He does make sure that I get tym fr othr things... n I to myself enjoy tlkin to him... he does ask me if I need sum tym for myself... and I do say him that m feeling guilty for which he says its fyn.. but that doesn't convince me at all because I can figure out stuff and his feelings from his wrds...

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he does make sure tht i get tym fr othr things

How does he do that?

i can figure out stuff and his feelings from his wrds ...

Or are you afraid you will lose him if you are not talking to him constantly? Are you afraid some other girl will move in and grab him if you aren't with him constantly?

He asks me at tymz if he's dstrbn... Abt losing I know I will loose him as a boyfriend and I truly love him which he thinks I say just for fun.. but yes we will always be friends and thts decided between us.. n for figurin out stuff its just about undersanding

And if he's disturbing or taking up time you'd rather using for something else, you don't dare tell him that.

n for figurin out stuff its just about undersanding
I have no idea what you mean by that.

Maybe, you are just too presumptous. Why don't you talk to him straightly.. you will always feel guilty for making yourself busy.. You can make him happy of course but you need to make yourself happy first. In a relationship like that, we the women must be aware of the situation. We can never let anybody disturbs our feelings until we knows where we stand..

Zen