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  • Jul 23, 2011, 12:04 AM
    nicolep101
    6 weeks after abortion and still no period?
    I had an abortion 6 weeks ago due to a complication with the baby at 9 weeks. I took my anti-biotics, talked to my doctor, and was told 3 weeks later I could have sex again. My boyfriend and I had sex protected, and then again unprotected a few days later. The unprotected sex he did not finish, but I am still worried about the possibility of pregnancy from pre-***.
    My question is, am I pregnant again, or are my hormones still delaying my period?

    Yes, I understand the stupidity of what I did. I regret the abortion but the baby would not have survived and I could have been put at risk if I hadn't done it. If I am pregnant again, I will do the right thing and have it and put it up for adoption. I understand the irresponsibility and I will do what's right.
  • Jul 23, 2011, 12:15 AM
    J_9

    Nicole,

    There is no way to tell if you are or are not pregnant so soon after an abortion, and it's impossible for us to diagnose you over the internet.

    It can take a while for your body to readjust back to the pre-pregnant state, so don't fret just yet.

    Quote:

    If I am pregnant again, I will do the right thing and have it and put it up for adoption. I understand the irresponsibility and I will do what's right.
    Apparently you DON'T understand responsibility. Having an abortion and then a few short weeks later talking about adoption is not being responsible! Being responsible is not engaging in intercourse until you are mentally, emotionally and financially prepared for parenthood. If you are not prepared, either stop having sex or use protection EVERY time!
  • Jul 23, 2011, 12:26 AM
    nicolep101
    Comment on J_9's post
    I think it's more responsible for me to put it up than to raise it when I'm obviously in no condition to have a child. I use protection, but protection is not 100% effective. As for my unprotected sex, I already said I understand what I did. It was dumb, and I know what 'should have' happened. But I'm trying to handle this as responsibly as possible.
  • Aug 20, 2011, 03:54 PM
    0rphan
    Hi Nicole,

    At this moment everything needs to settle down, including your emotional state of mind,whilst you may think your OK,this will take sometime for you and your body to recover from.I think a good thing to do is to go visit your doctor and tell him exactly what you've said to us,he perhaps will do a pregnancy test and maybe check over your general health just to be sure your OK after the procedure you've been through.
    This will also stop you worrying.Perhaps,at the same time it might be a good thing for you to talk to your doctor about methods of contraception that may be more suitable for you,there are many on the market that you don't even have to think about... eg.an injection, usually in the arm, that lasts for 6 months at a time,this way you will always be covered against unwanted pregnancy,however it is always wise to carry condoms for protection against std.Takecare..
  • Aug 20, 2011, 05:17 PM
    Alty
    Quote:

    I think it's more responsible for me to put it up than to raise it when I'm obviously in no condition to have a child. I use protection, but protection is not 100% effective. As for my unprotected sex, I already said I understand what I did. It was dumb, and I know what 'should have' happened. But I'm trying to handle this as responsibly as possible.
    Nicole, I'm going to warn you now, you won't like what I have to say, but I really think you need to hear it.

    Let me paint you a picture.

    You have a gun. One day you decide to target practice in your yard. Well, your neighbor is in his yard and one of your shots misses the target, and hits your neighbor. You're devastated, but, after a few weeks in the hospital he's okay to go home. What a relief!

    Then, a few short weeks after you decide that you're going to target practice in your yard again. You start shooting, and you're not careful, and one of the shots again misses the target. Your neighbor was once again in the yard, but you don't yet know if you hit him. There's a chance though.

    So you decide that if he's hit you'll do the right thing, pay his medical bills, see him through, and then you'll finally learn your lesson. No more target practice in the yard.

    Isn't it a bit silly that it took two incidents before you learned?

    My thought, you want to be pregnant. If not, then I have to wonder why you're doing everything in your power (unprotected sex), to get pregnant. People who don't want to get pregnant have many options. No, they're not 100% effective, but they are much more effective then having unprotected sex. You already had one pregnancy. Did you not learn anything?

    Hopefully your period is just delayed because of the recent abortion. But, like J9 said, we can't diagnose on the internet.

    Take a pregnancy test, or see your doctor. If you're not pregnant, hopefully this latest scare will finally make you realize that you're playing with a loaded gun.

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