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  • Jul 21, 2011, 07:01 PM
    jperkins81658
    Need to find my Daughter. Help Please!!
    I'm trying to help a friend. He just got out of Prison, been there for a long time. He wants to locate his daughter. His now ex-wife had custody of her when she was just a baby. He knows his daughter's birth name, etc. and ex name. We have searched the net. We found the Gran Parents living In Philly, and he think by the relatives listed, that his daughter is with them. But it's not her birth name. He said that is something they would have done. He said that he and ex was a mixed race marriage, and the parents (Italians) did everything they could to make sure they didn't connect. There he was today, a big man, crying and shaking in my office today, when we found a ray of hope. I'm an Insurance Agent, not Investigator, so I don't do this for a living. He went home and came back some fresh peaches to give to me for helping, he said he didn't have money but had a few peaches. Any help would be great. If anyone messages me I can give more info.
  • Jul 22, 2011, 02:55 AM
    joypulv
    If he thinks she is living with the grandparents in Philly, what do you need help with online? You think of a way to approach them, watch them, call them, write to them. You don't say where you are or how old the daughter is.
    You also need to be very careful. You don't really know who is who or what is what, do you, other than what you have been told by a total stranger. I too might be touched by tears and fresh peaches but it doesn't mean I would throw myself into an endeavor that might not be what it seems.
  • Jul 22, 2011, 02:39 PM
    jperkins81658
    Comment on joypulv's post
    I just saw some of your post, and thought you could tell us how to go about finding her. I know this man's family, so I'm not stupid, I know that there is some people that is up to evil. His daughter's mother was 17 when she had their daughter. He went to prison, and her mother moved back to Pa. and had the mother's parent had arranged her to marry someone else. Know the daughter is 18 now. As you can see I didn't spread any names around when I ask for help, because I don't really know who is who or what is what, do you? Cause you're a total stranger. Sorry to bother you!!
  • Jul 22, 2011, 04:39 PM
    joypulv
    All you wrote was a sad story with absolutely nothing to go on, not even how many years ago all this happened, or where, or how well you know the man, or the woman, or the child, or whether you even looked in the phone book for the grandparents - NOTHING. WHAT DID YOU EXPECT?
    You can't talk about peaches and expect help; all you will get is sympathy.
    For this I got a negative? Maybe someone else will weigh in, good luck.
  • Jul 22, 2011, 05:51 PM
    jperkins81658
    Comment on joypulv's post
    I think we both was hasty with our comments and I apolgize to you. I didn't reveal details, because I wanted to find someone that seem interested in helping first. That is why I said if anyone can help I would send more detail (privately). He filled out the ISRR paper work today.
  • Jul 22, 2011, 05:51 PM
    jperkins81658
    Comment on joypulv's post
    We have checked on people searches, phone directory, etc. We found the grandmother on Facebook. On some other sites we found the grandparent in Philly with a female with them, he said the name is something they would have change her to. He is Black and the mother was Italin, and her parents wouldn't have their daughter with a Black man back them, and he was young and got into trouble and after he was in prison they moved from N.O. to Philly. We did find someone in N.O. that he remember and he called, she called him back, and said she was going to get with her husband and call back with info. He has tried to find a way to keep in touch, but his daughter family didn't want him to. Know that she is 18, he wants her to know her father has never forgot.
  • Jul 22, 2011, 05:54 PM
    jperkins81658
    Comment on joypulv's post
    He did call the # we found for her grandparent and a girl answered and said that Henry wasn't there. He knew his ex married name. But we come up with no luck finding her, but like he said there is a lot of Italins in Philly by that name. Once again I'm sorry I acted hasty on rating you.
  • Jul 22, 2011, 05:59 PM
    jperkins81658
    Comment on joypulv's post
    I'm new to this site. I was just following the rules for this site. That is why I was general, because the rule say to be.

    IMPORTANT Read First Before posting info. Asked by ScottGem On Jan 02, 2010
    This is NOT a site where we find people for you. We do not allow the posting of personal information, Any such information will be removed.

    You can ask for general suggestions on how to find people.

  • Jul 22, 2011, 06:48 PM
    Fr_Chuck

    First sorry you can not contact others privately, you either post the info publicly or not at all.

    It is against the rules to do private answers and questions and anyone caught doing that would be warned or even banned.

    Next it appears you may have found them, or at least some of the family, so you contact the people you have names for and ask.

    But

    How long in prison ?

    How old is the child ?

    Would the child be a adult now ?

    What was the custody agreement ?
    Did he have a visit
  • Jul 26, 2011, 08:56 AM
    JudyKayTee

    We need SOMETHING to ID a person before any of us can use our resources to locate the person.

    Name, age, last place the person lived, something.

    I'm not saying it's a good idea to post personal info. I AM saying no one can be located without some personal info.

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