My husband just told me to leave the house for 2 months and leave our kids 13 and 19 in his care. If I don't he said he will leave and not pay the mortgage. He always has been a controlling person and also has put me down calling me useless. I always worked at least part time until I lost my job last a year because I worked for a temp companies. His moto is he is the boss and it is his way or the highway. I am scared to leave my kids with him because I do not want to abandon my children and get in trouble with the law . Please give me some advice!

It sounds honestly like an emotionly abusive relationship that you do not deserve. Telling a mother to leave her children is probably one of the worst things someone could do and threating not to pay the mortgage is not fair to you. You are not a useless person and that you need to stand up for yourself even if that means leaving your husband and your stability( finanical, mental, and physical). You do not deserve this nor do your children need to be put tthrough something like this. I hope you figure this out as I know it must be a tough situation to handle. Good luck

You posted this under the Family Law section so I will first answer with the law. He cannot legally do this. You cannot be forced to leave the marital home without a court order. If he wants to file for divorce, then that is his right, but telling you to leave is not. Also, are you on the deed for the house?

As for him moving out, that would be his choice. As for not paying the mortgage, that would be foolish on his part as his credit and investment would be affected. But, if he does, then you file for emergency support.

On a personal note, I would strongly suggest you contact a local support group for abused woman. They can help with legal advice and moral support.

Aside to taratee, You are new here so may not be aware that answers in the legal forums, need to conform to statutory law. While I don't disagree with your advice, its not appropriate for this forum unless it accompanies answers to the legal question. Please make sure future answers adhere to our standards.

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Originally Posted by taratee

It sounds honestly like an emotionly abusive realtionship that you do not deserve. Telling a mother to leave her children is probably one of the worst things someone could do and threating not to pay the morgage is not fair to you. You are not a useless person and that you need to stand up for yourself even if that means leaving your husband and your stability( finanical, mental, and physical). You do not deserve this nor do your children need to be put tthrough something like this. I hope you figure this out as I know it must be a tough situation to handle. Good luck

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I don't see any legal advice here.

OP needs to get an Attorney. Her husband can say what he will do until he is blue in the face. Court will tell him what he HAS to do.

You really do need to consult with someone.

Legally he cannot just tell you to leave without a Court order. If he does not pay the mortgage he's the one who will suffer in the end.

Just what is his motive here other than he's too controlling? You may want to start making tracks to a divorce attorney's office to see what your rights are in case he does do this. At least you will have a leg up on the situation legally and will know how to proceed accordingly. Sounds like a possible divorce in the making. Don't wait too long before consulting an attorney on this either as he is only going to get more demanding and possibly violent in the end.