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  • Jul 16, 2011, 12:10 AM
    white_tigers898
    Dumped, and hurt!
    Moved to its own thread


    It sure is hard. My ex dumped me because he said he was feeling sad and reckons it's the distance. Where I think it's not. Then a month later he only wanted to become friends with me after another month of pain and being hurt he reckons he feels much happier to be single. So right now I am feeling hurt, confused, and crying myself to sleep. It's not a great feeling to have especially when they said that they love you its so not fair. How can you move on in life if anyone can help me with any advice throw it my way. He is still the love of my life.


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  • Jul 16, 2011, 01:34 PM
    talaniman

    Having NO Contact with him is a start, and allowing yourself to mourn, and heal from your loss, by building a life that you enjoy, without him in it.

    Break ups suck, but only until you have regrouped, and move on.
  • Jul 16, 2011, 05:18 PM
    vanheart
    The point is he is no longer the love of your life.

    Being a victim of heartbreak & an LD relationship, I know how hard that can be.

    Once you accept the facts & reality, you can start to rebuild.

    I am all for No Contact. It will help you become stronger & remove drama & false hopes.

    Everyone goes through this at one point or another.

    Do for yourself now, treat yourself well and take your own time to discover how this will shed light on who are are, the decisions you make & what it is you want, and makes you happy.

    You will emerge from this a stronger & more together person. If you allow yourself to.
    Takes time & hard work.

    You can do it.
  • Jul 21, 2011, 12:16 PM
    redrumx3
    I know it's hard wanting someone that just doesn't seem to want you back. Naturally, you push yourself on that person in hopes they will do the same. But I've learned that doing that only has the opposite affect. Pushing someone will cause the to go away, instead you need to let go. I know it's the last thing you want to do, but it's the best thing for you and for him. If you hold on it not only pushes him away, but keeps you stuck in grief. If you begin to let go, you begin to heal and become the person you truly are, the person he fell for to begin with.

    Try not to contact him, it will only hurt you. Keep your mind busy and stop waiting to see his name pop up on your phone. Remember that you are worth it. You deserve to be happy and right now only you can start walking toward happiness, no one can move your legs for you. Find hobbies, go out with friends, do things you have fun doing.

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