Hi,

I have been with my lover for 5 years and one year married, when he met me I was almost 65 lbs thinner than what I am now, although I am 6'2 now I hold my weight very very well, My husband says that I am beautiful and he doesn't want me to change anything about me, I still get worried that he is no telling the truth. I notice he watches wrestling or "the girls next door" and his eyes light up when a beautiful model shows up on the TV, I then start to think does he want me to look like that? This is confusing? What should I do

The question is do you thrust your husband? I wouldn't worry about his eyes lighting up when he see's people on telly. A lot of that is psychological, and most of the people on telly are so desirable is because every knows there is no chance. Im sure you are still very beautiful and I'm sure he still finds you just as attractive. And there are clear indications whether he is starting to find you less attractive, like lower sex drive and avoidance of questions to do with the subject. If there are no signs of these there shouldn't be much reason to doubt him.

I've been reading through a lot of your posts and your insecurities shine significantly through every one of them. You are going to lose your man real quick if you keep worrying about everything like you have been. You need to enjoy your life together with him. If you feel that you are not pretty, then do something about it.
But just remember, he married you, and most people marry each other because they love each other ;) . Be confident, he'll love you even more for it.

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Originally Posted by PatrickG

The question is do you thrust your husband? I wouldnt worry about his eyes lighting up when he see's people on telly. Alot of that is psychological, and most of the people on telly are so desireable is because every knows there is no chance. Im sure you are still very beautiful and im sure he still finds you just as attractive. And there are clear indications whether he is starting to find you less attractive, like lower sex drive and avoidance of questions to do with the subject. If there are no signs of these there shouldnt be much reason to doubt him.

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Yeah I trust him, I guess your right and thank you for your advice it really helped me a lot...

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Originally Posted by PatrickG

The question is do you thrust your husband? I wouldnt worry about his eyes lighting up when he see's people on telly. Alot of that is psychological, and most of the people on telly are so desireable is because every knows there is no chance. Im sure you are still very beautiful and im sure he still finds you just as attractive. And there are clear indications whether he is starting to find you less attractive, like lower sex drive and avoidance of questions to do with the subject. If there are no signs of these there shouldnt be much reason to doubt him.

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Wow, aggressive but your right I have to stop being so insecure, yeah my weight kind of affected me but not him, he loves me and I do trust him I have to stop being such a baby.

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Originally Posted by pumkin2

wow, aggressive but your right i have to stop being so insecure, yeah my weight kinda affected me but not him, he loves me and i do trust him i have to stop being such a baby.

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Sorry, not trying to be mean-it's just that I can relate so well to you because I was exactly like you and I know what I went through. But these were things that were told to me by the one that I loved so much. At once I "had it so good", but my insecurities pushed him away, which made my insecurities even worse. It takes time to work on, I still have trouble at times, but I've noticed myself how much better my life is when I can hold my head up high, and how much better I get treated, not only by the man I love, but by people in general. :)