So, the girl I love went away for the summer. We wrote letters all the time and every single one was full of the things we were going to do when she got back, how happy we were, and a future together. Then I get a midnight phone call that says it moved too fast, she wants time to find herself, we can still be great friends. I've been around the block a few times and know that generally means, new love interest. I can't be smothering her, I haven't seen her in over a month, nor texted or called. Any advice...

Where are you in all these?

Are you getting over her or hoping your no contact is going to 'bring her back'?

See this as over;take her word for it-you moved too fast and her feelings changed.

Its not about you, its about her changing her mind about future plans. You have to adjust to this change, if you can't be friends, then leave her alone and move on.

The whole "time to find herself" and "being great friends" are VERY irritating excuses that annoy me to hear from any male and female. I wish people would just be honest but they won't. Let her go. She probably has, as you said decided to see/date/go into a relationship with someone else and do not even talk to her. She does not deserve to be great friends with you. She was gone after one month? How nice of her! How great to know that she could be so faithful! At least you know sooner than later but don't torture yourself with any false promises of friendship because that is exactly what they are -false promises. Just say goodbye and realize she was not the one. Sorry for you, actually sorry for her!