My boyfriend has no job, no drive to do anything but sit around and smoke and play videogames with his boys... He won't have sex with me and rarely will be intimate at all ( touch me nothing). I started going out and I'm getting tons of attention from many guys and its tempting for the sexual aspect because how much can a vibrator really do Im an intimate person and I like having sex with someone not myself... I know we love each other but is it enough,. the past month has been rocky... we started arguing he would pick little fights with me for no reason and I had enough so I told him to leave and he won't leave... and now things are calmer and he's so curious as to where I'm going when I go out... but like damn what am I suppose to do... how much longer do I wait for his intimacy before I go else where.. because in all reality I just want his intimacy...

Do you love him? Honestly think about that. Talk to him abou tit give it about 2 weeks if nothing changes then break up or just take a break and date other people. Then see how he is afterwards. But if you just want intimacy that can happen with any guy but if you love him talk about it. Leave for a few days then go back and see how he reacts to you leaving.

How old is he, and how long have you been together? If he won't leave you can, can't you? Why be miserable? That's not love.

Is he living in your flat?

I'd say time to kick him out;you're not in a relationship,you're in a mess with an immature lazybones.

Well what do you need? Not in the terms of "I need him" but in the terms of what qualities do you need in a partner. Does he match up?

It doesn't matter if he could give you those things in the past because he isn't doing them in the present. I'd suggest you talk with him first to see if something is up. If you are considering moving on to "greener" pastures you may want to leave. Its better to leave before you end up doing something you might regret and he may not forgive you for. I hope this helps because you deserve the intimacy you crave.

All you need is his intimacy? You don't need his drive and support? You don't need for him to be a responsible, contributing adult? You don't need him to have purpose or goals? I would seriously evaluate why you "need" so little from your relationship, and why you don't want more for yourself. A great way to do that is to be alone, and take time to prioritize what is important to you and what your values are. It will help you to understand what is acceptable to you in another person. As for him... he is a complete bum. Move on.

One word: LEAVE!!