Hi, I'm a 15 year old girl, going on 16 in high school. I'm black but I act white(OREO),I model, my personality is very bubbley, I wear a lot of makeup, I wear weave very often, I dress up every day, And for some reason I just seem to be the main target of getting picked on at school. I'm really nice, and friendly, and I have a bit of a social phobic issue but I'm OK when I'm not alone with a crowd of people. I know I'm going a bit over board, but I'm listing down exactly how I act in school. I've been told from a lot of people that I act very conceided and my first impression would be me coming off as Stuck up. I'm more of the preppy girl, but deep down inside I care a lot of what people think about me, I'm scared to ask people because I don't want them to know that I'm kind of desperate as for what they think, I just want the truth from someone else's perspective who knows that I'm not really into myself, that this is more of a cover up for myself insecurities. I just want to be able to have a lot of friends and to be myself around others without worrying what they think. The people who do pick on me, I don't know why they would, I don't think I'm ugly at all, I've been told that I'm pretty and have been accepted in a lot of modeling opportunities. I don't know if their jealous, haters, or intimidated by me, and I'm sorry for writing soooooo long. I'm just really despreate to get an answer. I thank you so much for reading, and would appreiate it most if you can willingly provide me with an answer.

Thanks so much:)

Cute. You had better tone down yourself esteem a bit because even in your post you come across as very much into yourself. People notice this, people who don't have quite your attributes. Sure you can be well groomed, you probably know what you are doing that way, but try to dress down, not wear so much make up to school. Just be a regular girl wanting to get ahead academically.

Tick

I have to say, that as a person of color, I hate the statement "I act white". I HATE IT! What you are really saying is that if a person is well spoken, educated, and confident, they must be acting white because a black person obviously couldn't be those things. Give that some thought the next time you decide to call yourself or anybody else an Oreo.

School is there for you to get an education. Contrary to popular belief, it is not a fashion show, and you are not on a runway. People probably wouldn't think that you are conceited if you weren't acting like the hallway was your stage. Tone it WAY down. Focus on your education and plans for the future. What people think of you in high school actually doesn't matter to anyone in the grand scheme of things.

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Originally Posted by kcomissiong

I have to say, that as a person of color, I hate the statement "I act white".

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Hello kc:

As a white man, I HATE it too. Frankly, it's UNBELIEVABLY racist, for the very reasons you point out.

excon

As soon as you stop worrying only about how YOU look and how YOU are perceived and start caring about others, you will be able to make more friends. No one wants a friend who's always thinking about themselves. What does that friend have to offer?

And focus on your studies. Your brain is going to last a lot longer than your looks, and if you don't groom your brain now it isn't going to get easier later.

Your user name said it all for me, the start of your post came across as arrogant, as I read on though, I can tell you're a sweet girl, you write beautifully and you're smart.

Like the other guys said, tone down the self image, there's no need for so much makeup and dressing like a barbie doll, you clearly have other nice qualities that don't need dressing up, they come from the inside out, don't mask them with makeup and pretty clothes.

Try not to be someone you're n o t.

Insecurities are normal at your age-but people will like you for who you are-if you allow yourself to be you rather than wearing a mask and acting a part.