We have been married 3 years and we have a child together but he still asks questions like if Im sleeping with my older sons dad and he yells at me when my ex calls leaving a mean voicemail. He acts all crazy saying things like he can't talk to me like that but his dad has been mean and nasty since day 1 and my husband never seems to care about that. When Ive gone to him about the way his dad treats me he yells at me, once in front of his parents and screamed he hated me and wanted a divorce and called me pretty much every name you can think of. What he doesn't seem to realize is if he acts out and does hurt my older sons dad he is going to mess up our chances of getting full custody of my older son. Im tired of dealing with this still and don't know what to do, someone help??

So how much contact do you have with the ex ?

So, your ex acts like a jerk by leaving 'mean' messages and your current husband accuses you of still being physically involved with him?

Do you have any idea of why he makes these accusations? Has anything occurred to cause him to have any basis for these thoughts? Has the ex been in contact with him trying to cause problems in your relationship?

It sounds like your husband is insecure and only he knows why he feels that way. Have the two of you sat down and discussed the issues without fighting or yelling?

I think you have too much going on to handle it on your own. I think you need to look into marriage counseling. If he won't go with you, then start going on your own. I think it will help you find ways to communicate with your husband about both his father and your ex. It might also help you decide if this marriage is viable or if it is spiraling into being abusive.

I will be honest that this does not sound like an environment I would want to bring children up in. Is the rest of your relationship better than what you have written about here?

You might think about adding more background information to help us understand what is going on in your relationships with your husband, his father, and your ex.

Good luck and take care of yourself and your children.