We have been dating on and off for 2 1/2 yrs. He has said it in the past and went back on it. Then said it again but we've broken up. We recently got back together in may and about 3wks ago he said I love you before he hung up the phone with me and I said it back. I wish he would say it more often. I know its different saying it to his mom and sisters etc. but he has no problem with that. So how do I get him to say it more often? I don't want to be the 1 to say it first for fear of rejection even though that sounds silly. I just need some advice. He is very sweet always tells me I'm beautiful but sometimes its just nice to hear those words.. what should I do to feel more at ease? Please help :)

This can be a good thing, with all this stuff going around about how people saying I love you always leads to a man/boyfriend wanting sex. This could mean he just respects you enough to not want it that way and just leaving it until he feels like you are the only one for him. Remember this is only my opinion.

Maybe appreciate his showing it rather than saying it. Yes it nice to hear, but its better to feel it.

Actions speak louder than words-are his actions loving and caring?

That's what I'd look at!

My boyfriend knows my birthday is at the end of the month and his mom asked him if he wanted to go visit family/friends.. I am upset because he would be going the time of my birthday and I'm trying to plan to go out which he already knows the date. It bothers me because 1. he never invited me there when his sister has brought her boyfriend in the past does that mean he doesn't care for me as much? Or am I over reacting? And 2. because he already knows a few of my friends can't go. It just sucks I just feel like sometimes he just don't care but I could be over reacting to or pmsing lol I don't know I just get the feeling that he doesn't appreciate me all the time and this situation just added to it. He's sweet most of the time but when he is sick or stressed forget it... any advice would be helpful..

Many times we assume that because we are brought up a certain way or certain events are important to us, that they also should be especially important to our significant other. I found out in my relationships that certain families ddo not even acknowledge their family member's birthdays so they also bring that into the relationship as well as holidays,etc. I would suggest that you remind your boyfriend that your birthday is coming up and sort of hint how much you love your birthday and it is important to you and why. Also remember his sister and him are not the same person nor do they have the same personalities so he may not have even thought about it. He may have even thought you had plans with your family,eyc. You need to communicate. You can't get upset with him -guys need specifics may times as they often do not even realize that you may be thinking about something or that something is hurting you. If he is sweet most of the time, I would really suggest talking to him as I said. Don't sit home and cry about something he may not even know is bothering you.

Well if you sit around waiting for him to read your mind then you will be celebrating your birthday without him. He obviously doesn't have a clue how important this is to you. Now if he still doesn't show any response once you have explained things then its time for you to re-examine this relationship. Take care

No guy can read minds so tell him what you are thinking.