My husband does the same thing when he get mad, telling me to get out and I have the same rights than him, my question is that I suspected he cheated on me in California just before we move here to Pennsylvania, Im not sure 100% but Im looking for clues, proofs, so he get mad telling me it is harassment, and I don't think so, I want to leave him but he doesn't want to give me the divorce, we have 9 years together and 5 years of marriage, one son 8 years old and my daughter she is 16( she is her stepdaughter). My question anyway it is true he can acuse me of harassment just because I'm trying to know the true and check Emails and cell phone calls? We are renting apt and he just bought a house and I find out he was trying to take my right aways from tittle something like that, I told him I couls sue him for all those things, man this is so hard for me since this is not my country and also came to Pennsylvania with his promise he is going to be good, then one month living here I found an Email from a girl who worked for him, just asked questions and he got worst lying more... if somebody have any idea about the rights here in Pennsylvania let me know my emial is {removed}

Please don't post your email address - it's against the rules and EXTREMELY foolish to post this much personal information in details AND an email address on a public board.

You can't sue each other when you are married for the things you are describing. You CAN consult with an Attorney and file for a legal separation or a divorce.

He can simply remove your name from the title to the house without your signature.

Why are you snooping through his emails and cell phone calls? I wouldn't do it unless you are prepared to deal with whatever you find. If you strongly believe he is cheating he most probably is. I'm an investigator and that's been my personal experience.

You don't need proof and clues to get a divorce in Pennsylvania. There are many grounds for divorce.

Why are you staying with this abusive man?

And he can't kick you out either.
And he can't refuse to 'give' you a divorce. You divorce him, end of story, and in the settlement fight for half of the house or whatever assets he has, something your lawyer will find out. Leaving your name off the title of a deed to a house just means that if he wants to sell or refinance while you are married, he is free to do so without your signature.

Sometimes cheating is cause and effect; one person drives the other away with their suspicions. But you say he 'promised to be good' which does sound like he admits it. Start looking for a divorce lawyer before he starts hiding money.

He can use harassment as grounds for obtaining a divorce from you. The harassment could get him a more favorable settlement. But the bottom line is you get a lawyer, file for divorce and try to get the best settlement you can.

Sounds like time to stop trying to find proof and either go to a marriage counselor or a divorce attorney

OK, I didn't know about the emial address is true, it is something personal. Why I checks his Emails? Because I have the rights to find out was his is planning or did, and yes Im prepared for the true. I just want to unmascared him, the real him the double face, he acted in front people he is a nice husband, besides when I found this Email about the lady, he hid right away and changed password etc I will not think nothing wrong if he acted normally when I asked him who she was . The reason I still with this man is because my son, he will fight to get my son and I know in some states who ever makes more money keep the kids, anyway Im not leaving to another state or back to my country I will fight for my rights and maybe share custody, that is something my husband doesn't want, I asked him for divorce lont time ago and h keep telling me he doesn't want for the kids, but I can't take it anymore, I want to be peace on mind and have my kids too beside me.

Thank you for your answers, it is hard to explian especially when is about marriage and couple, Im not here to be jugde I asked for opinion that is all, so if any woman has been in this situation feel free to answer me...

Why I have to stop? He mess up with my life, so I will do the same thig... oh counselor he didn't want to, and is something for both not only only...

I have the right to suspect because his past, he was married when I met him and he cheated his wife a lot, she knew and didn't leave him. Then with me he promised he won't do that, he will tell me if he likes somebody before he cheat. I just felt he tricked me good to come all the way here, I knew people in California and here very few,He knew I will be alone, is time to divorce...

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Thank you for your answers, it is hard to explian especially when is about marriage and couple, Im not here to be jugde I asked for opinion that is all, so if any woman has been in this situation feel free to answer me...

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First, if you have a follow-up question or info, please use the Answer options not Comments.

A successful marriage is based on trust. If trust is gone, then the marriage is basically over.

If you are asking opinions, that involves a judgment. You can't get around that. Please don't presume to dictate how we can answer your questions. Once you post, you open yourself to different types of answers.

As I said - if you don't trust him (and you obviously) don't you already KNOW he's cheating.

So follow the advice that was given to you and consult with an Attorney OR wait until your husband files for a divorce from you and then try to protect yourself and your children.

You and your husband will probably not decide how much visitation and who has custody. The Court will decide.

In the meantime what do you care how other people perceive him? If your interest is in discrediting him, you are the one who will look petty and mean.

If the marriage is over, it's over. Take steps NOW before there is little you can do.

NO, I'm not 100% he was cheating on me, but I suspected like I said because when I asked him who was that lady he hid and lock passwords etc, I don't care anymore what he is doing with that lady, I want to be free that is all. Also you said I will look mean and petty because I was trying to perceive him? I was just trying to proved I was right, in the past one time he accused me in front my kids so now was my turn, also acting like a great hubsnad in front people and in the house he is another, yes I have to show some of his friends what kind of man he is, people know me very well, they do know Im not mean or hypocrite, Im honest and yes if I don't trust him is better to divorce. Thank you anyway..

ScootGems:First I don't see the answer buttom. Second what do you know about family laws?? My questions was about women rights(wives) no about if I was mean, etc. I came here for professionals answers. Yes marriage is base in trust and also you can earn trust, If the person who you married lied for any stupid small thing then you can't trust it. I guess Im wasting my time talking a guy anyway... I will not come back here so don't waste your time answering me...

'I know in some states who ever makes more money keep the kids'
Where did you hear that? Custody arrangements are never that simple.

You need to stop thinking you know facts about divorce and custody, starting with thinking that you 'ask for a divorce.' You don't ask, you get one. Get your facts from an actual divorce lawyer.

Just an aside: When I first met my now ex husband, he suspected me of seeing my last boyfriend. It was true at first, but it wasn't for romance. We were friends and I wasn't even sure yet how I felt about this new man in my life. In some ways his suspicions wrenched me away from old friends because I wanted to prove that I wasn't involved with anyone else, and that helped lead to an unhappy marriage and eventual divorce.

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ScootGems:First I dont see the answer buttom. second what do you know about family laws??? My questions was about women rights(wives) no about if I was mean, etc. I came here for professionals answers. Yes marriage is base in trust and also you can earn trust, If the person who you married lied for any stupid small thing then you can't trust it. I guess Im wasting my time talking a guy anyway...I will not come back here so dont waste your time answering me...

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If you scroll down towards the bottom of the page you will see the answer options. You did use that method in your first two responses.

I know a good deal about Family Law. Marriage falls under Family law. You have gotten good advice from knowledgeable people on this site. If you choose not to listen that is up to you. But if you want to use this site, please follow the rules.

I realize you are gone and never coming back because you didn't get the answer you wanted BUT I wanted to add that the legal system is not the place to get revenge. If you wrestle with pigs, you get dirty. Keep that in mind.