So my boyfriend of 3 months broke up with me recently but he won't tell me the reason why...
At first, he was really sweet and would always hang out with me during when we don't have class, but after the first 2 months he has become more distant... He would sometimes blow me off on hang outs and play football with his friends instead. I completely understand because I understand he needs his own space and time with his friends. But then he started talking to his best friend's girlfriend a lot more and this bothered me a bit since he would talk to her more than me.. But I trusted him so I didn't mention anything.
Then his best friend's girlfriend dumped him (my bf's bestfriend) for my boyfriend... At that point, I told my boyfriend about my insecurites about him and the other girl and he told me nothing was going on between them. So I trusted him.
But then in a week he dumped me through an offline MSN message... And he won't tell me the reason why. And at school he just avoids me and when I do see him, he doesn't say anything..
I still really like him and when we were together, I thought it was for real and I actully fell in love with him... There are rumours around school saying that he broke up with me for that girl but others say that he just wants freedom to be around his friends and play football more..
Half of me just wants to yell and slap him but the other half just wants the urge to clear everything between us and get back together... but since he won't talk to me I don't know what to do.. Also summer just started so it's a loooongg time apart.. :( what should I do?

Maybe he don't love you, you should pick a kind hearted man and a man who will love you and will not leave you

Trust the half that wants to yell and slap him. If he had any real reason to break up with you he would have told you. Not a cowardly offline message. The point is, I don't think he has a reason that he could justify. Yet you would want to know what is the reason, but he is not worth it.

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maybe he dont love you, you should pick a kind hearted man and a man who will love you and will not leave you

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- And how do you pick a man who is guaranteed not to leave you?

To OP - perhaps he doesn't want an argument, perhaps he can't put his reasons into words. Maybe he doesn't want to hurt you.

Maybe he is or was involved with someone else. Sometimes the more you question the more the other person feels somehow compelled to violate your trust.

And maybe he's just not the right guy for you right now.

I think you use the summer to get over him and move on.

Sometimes we don't get the answers we want and personally I would go with the anger-dumping someone via text-NOT on in my book.

Find things to do and get to know new people.

Take good care of yourself.

He would rather do other things, with other people, but is too much of a coward to tell you the truth to your face. That alone shows his true character, so for sure you won't change his mind, or his character.

That's why it doesn't matter about his reasons, his actions are clear, and even though it hurts to be dumped, rejected, and ignored, you at least have a chance to do better, and be happier with a better guy.

Why would you want more crap from the same guy? You think you can talk a fool into not being a fool? You can't, so keep your dignity, and self respect, by leaving the fool alone and enjoying your summer with friends, family, and activities, that you enjoy.

Next time, don't give your heart to a fool who doesn't deserve it, nor know what to do with it.

My recent ex (who I mentioned in my last question) is sending me really mixed messages and I don't know what to do.
My best friend who is leaving this summer invited her friends to the mall to hangout and one of those friends included my ex. And so I told my best friend I was a bit uncomfortable with the situation and she said that it's fine and she completely understood but I didn't want to be a 'party pooper' so I told her that she should still go and I'll just join her next time. When my ex found out he called me and asked why I wasn't going and I just told him I was busy and he started 'begging' me to go. So I thought it would be a chance for me to talk to him since after the break up he has just been avoiding the subject. So I ended up going to the hangout.
The hangout was fun and I had a quick chance to talk to him and I asked him if he still had feelings for me and he said "kind of" and I asked him if he had feelings for any other girls and he said "no." So then I thought maybe there's a chance it to work again. The whole hangout he acted like how he acted before, really sweet and friendly and since I'm not completely over him yet, it just really made me attracted to him again and brought back memories from the past.
Then the next day, my best friend told me I should call him and talk to him about what is going on. And I wanted to talk to him about it as well but my call went straight to voicemail. I didn't dare call him again because it might make me look desperate. But then my best friend called him (just to see if he was there) and he answered... So I left him a text message saying I would like to talk to him about what had happened and he didn't reply. So I think he is avoiding me... I am so confused on what I should be doing...
Before the mall hangout I was in the process of getting over him but then after that one day it just made everything harder. I can't stop thinking about him and the subject is really bothering me. I don't know what to do.. I want to call him and talk to him about it to clear the water or else I will just be thinking about this all summer and I wouldn't be able to enjoy summer. I'm just really lost and I need help. :( What should I do..? Thank you so much for all your thoughts and support. Thanks

End the confusion and stop trying to get in touch with him.

He's your ex!

Find other things to do and heal from the breakup.

Tell your friends to mind there own business, and let you handle it yourself. Leave the guy alone as this is more your friends butting in than him wanting to get back with you.

Don't let any one make you a fool of false hope.

Girl I feel you I'm going through the same thing roght know... I just think that either they don't have a reason or they're just to scared because they still have feeling they can't express