Our kids are playmates. I invited his kids to play with mine. He is very nice to me. I have hugged him and tell him what a sweet guy he is. I have touch his hair and he told me that oh you plat me on my hair. WE talk to each other when I get the kids. He gives me songs he made and tell me not tell no one. I feel like kissing him but I am scared he tells me to come to his house anytime I want. He was real close to my face like he wanted to kiss me but I did nothing. He did tell his wife I touched his hair. I need to know If he want to go further with me.

You do realize he's married, and he has a family. And you are married and you have a family.

Take what further exactly? The destruction of 8 lives?

You should be ashamed of yourself.

Leave him alone.

Just because you are attractd to a man and you are enjoying his company won't take you any further mam.
Just like the previous commenter said you are being selfish and this act and thought of yours will ruin not only life but also other family members of you 2.
So just give imporatance to your family rather than your selfish thoughts.

Why does it matter how far he wants to take your relationship? You should be adult enough to know you are making a huge mistake in getting closer to him. You should put a stop to the behaviors and thoughts that are leading you toward temptation.

If you can't control yourself around him, then you need to stay away from him. You may think you aren't doing anything to affect others, but you are. Children pick up on the nuances between adults and it is very upsetting to them when they feel like they are being used as an excuse or around a parent who is cheating.

What is wrong in your marriage that you would even contemplate having an affair (emotional or physical)? Have you discussed these issues with your husband? Is it to the point of looking into counseling for the marriage and for you as an individual?

Why are you blaming me. How about him. He like call me when his wife is not their to play with the kids.

Why

He is not responsible for your actions. His wife is not responsible for your actions. Your husband is not responsible for your actions. Nothing anybody does or says, or what you may think of any individual involved- none of them are responsible for your actions.

Your husband could be the biggest jerk in the world, and your married man friend, may have the worst wife/person in the world, but that does not justify your actions.

You could be a lonely, shy, self conscious, unemployed, flying purple people eater, and that does not justify your actions either.

The only person who can be held accountable for your behaviour- is you.

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why are you blaming me. how about him. He like call me when his wife is not their to play with the kids.

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You can't control his behavior, but you can control your own.

You are being held responsible for your own actions. Since he isn't here and hasn't given his side of the story, I won't say what I think of his actions. However, he does seem to be talking to his wife. Are you talking to your husband?

Are you perhaps misreading his intentions and trying to turn them from platonic to romantic because of your own needs and desires?

Why do you seem to need his attention? What is so wrong in your own marriage that you seem to think it is permissible to play around with another woman's husband?

And to be blunt, you have him over with the kids "play date" so that means the kids are around or near when all of this touching is going on, how horrible for both of you, this could seriously effect the kids.

Next great, give custody of the kids to your spouses and go have a great life, where has moral values gone

Why don't you ask your husband if you should kiss this guy?

You're married. He's married. You both have kids. You both made commitments to the people you married.

If you're not happy in your marriage, get a divorce, but leave other women's husbands alone!

Get some self control!

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why are you blaming me. how about him. He like call me when his wife is not their to play with the kids.

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Why are you blaming him?

Are you not in control of your own life?

Yes, he's scum, he seems to have no regard for his wife or his marriage. But then, neither do you. :(

You know your right I am going to get a divorce and he told me he is getting it too. He move out today. I am move out tomorrow to be with him.

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why are you blaming me. how about him. He like call me when his wife is not their to play with the kids.

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Because you are the one asking this question.

He is married!

Yes. I have been attracted to married people too, BUT, I would NEVER go through with it.

It is up to you on how to control this. Only YOU can choose.

Do you what to live with the guilt if something were to happen?

Think about this. Alty and jake are correct, he is not responsible for your actions.

Save yourself and everyone around you the aggravation, and walk away!

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you know your right I am going to get a divorce and he told me he is getting it too. he move out today. I am move out tomorrow to be with him.

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Yeah... cause that sounds logical! Pfft!

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you know your right I am going to get a divorce and he told me he is getting it too. he move out today. I am move out tomorrow to be with him.

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Wow, one day you are wondering if there is any significance to him letting you touch his hair and the next you have decided to get a divorce. You really spent a lot of time on this decision then!

I presume you have long since decided you don't love your husband and given up on your marriage? During the time you spent working this out have you actually thought about what will be happening to the children? Have you actually discussed your long term plans with the guy you seem to have decided to leave your marriage for - you know the one you couldn't actually discuss hair touching or what he was wanting with?

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you know your right I am going to get a divorce and he told me he is getting it too. he move out today. I am move out tomorrow to be with him.

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CeeCee, this post coupled with your other ones show a person who is immature emotionally and is acting on impulse rather than logic and reasoning. It makes me think you are not a grown woman who has children and a husband, but instead a teenage girl who dreams of prince charming and doesn't know or see the cost of her actions.

If you are a grown woman, then I have to question how mentally and emotionally stable you are or if you have told us the truth of what has happened between the two of you. If you have been truthful then why not explain more of the background to help us understand why you appear to be doing the emotional equivalent of jumping off a cliff.

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You know your right I am going to get a divorce and he told me he is getting it too. He move out today. I am move out tomorrow to be with him.

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LMAO! Let us know how this booty call works out for you!

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LMAO! Let us know how this booty call works out for ya!

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All this, because she "touched" his hair. :rolleyes:

Tried to give you another green, had to spread the love..

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I couldn't agree more Cat.

If this is an adult woman, she has major issues, and boy do I feel bad for her kids.

Sorry kids, mommy is divorcing daddy because she wants to touch another mans hair. But, when that man leaves to have his hair touched by another woman, or he goes back to his wife, mommy will find yet another man to touch, and then another, and then another, because mommy doesn't really care about her commitments, she just wants to touch everyone's hair, and screw the effects it will have on you kids.

I'd love to shave this guys head. Problem solved. ;)

This is an easy problem to solve... no more play dates, cut contact and have no interaction with this man. The only way to get over someone you legitmately have a relationship with or become infatuated with is to remove them from your life. It works I absolutely promise. I once fell for a married acquaintance and as soon as I found myself interested I ran for the hills. I cut all ties from this person because I knew so many lives would be ruined and surprisingly moved on rather quickly. If you ever feel nostalgic or melancholy about him think about their significant other and kids and your family. How would you feel if the shoe were on the other foot? Absolutely devastated. Walk away and you will feel so good about yourself for making the right choice. Although we can't control others we can certainly control our actions which gives us free will. God Bless!