I'm 14 turning 15 they said were not celebrateing this year I'm to old I get yelled at called a hoe,slut,*****,everything you can think of and its all done my my evil step-mother.trust me I feel you're pain I have gon e threw depression muiltiple times and live with it every day except I cover up my depression with a smile so people can never tell I have gone to court twice well my mom did trying to get custody of me and lost both times they said I can chews who I want to live with when I'm 13 but I didn't want to leave my dad cause he had lung cacer and things like that bring you down hill plus I lost my step-dad,uncle,grandpa all in 2008,2009,2010.and now its 2011 and it still hurts.everytime something goes wrong guess who gets blamed me! Yesterday our house got egged and they asked who'd you piss off now? Just because last time it happened some kid was trying to get back at me for socking him in the face after he touched my butt. Like this stuff in this house is not normal.I'm not lying or mental I'm being seriouse!

So are you still living with you step dad? Or can you still talk to your mom? You need to talk to someone about this! This is NOT good for someone especially your AGE!!

Unfortunately my step-dad died,I want to live with my mom,my dad has cacer... and I hate living with my dad and evil step mother

I live with my dad and evil-stepmother,I would like to be placed with my mom or elswhere

So your mom has to file a petition in Family Court for a change in the custody order. Unless she does that, you have to stay with your dad.

I don't know who told you you can CHOOSE once you are 13, but its not true. The courts may listen to your preference and they may have to put a good deal of weight on your preference, but the court makes the decision not you.

I went and battled against my dad once and the judge said I have a resonable story but its not legal for me to chews because I was 11 so they said wait two years.

First, YOU didn't battle against your dad. As a minor you have no standing to file a custody question. Second, I doubt if that's what the judge actually said. I suspect he said something like wait a couple of years and see what happens.

The fact is no US state allows a minor to choose the custodial parent. Some states do have guideline on how much weight to put on the preference of a minor child.

If you let us know what state you live in, then we can check what the law actually says.

I have to wonder what issue your mom has if she can't get custody.

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Originally Posted by Altenweg

I have to wonder what issue your mom has if she can't get custody.

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Very good question. I was wondering that myself. I suspect there is a very good reason that is unlikely to bring a court to reverse themselves.

There is a reason your mom cannot get custody of you despite two Court attempts. What is the reason?

Why are you being called names? Is there some reason that your father and stepmother have issues with you right now?

If you ARE being abused, contact Child Protective Services. They can remove you from your home and place you in foster care. Custody will NOT go to your Mother because it appears that, for whatever reason, the Court will not grant custody to her.