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  • Jun 28, 2011, 02:01 AM
    wowwa
    I don't know whether I am overly jealous, or not?
    Ive been with my boyfriend for now 13 months, we have been living together for now about 5months and about 4months ago he became a DJ and now is getting a lot of attention from girls.

    I've been cheated on by nearly every guy Ive been out with. So Ive became really jealous. I know he loves me and he introduces me to everyone that he talks to, but I still feel like he has something to hide, e.g. I picked up his phone and he went nuts at me, he always goes out without me, while I'm at work, and he always talking to girls on Facebook. Ive started to have dreams of him cheating on me and then I get real angry at him, or be near him.

    It's starting to effect our relationship. I don't know whether I am being overly jealous or do I need some time from him, as we see each other everyday, and our sex life has disappeared.

    Need some help.
  • Jun 28, 2011, 03:27 AM
    BK201
    Does he tell you about the girls he is talking with in fb or what he is doing outside? If he is telling you everything without anything to hide, then you might say that you are over-jealous.
    But if he maintains a secrecy, then you ought to tell him clearly that, if by any chance he cheats on you, then you won't be there in his life from the next second. Tell him upfront and mean it.
  • Jun 28, 2011, 11:47 AM
    talaniman

    Instead of wondering, sit and talk casually and, calmly about it. If he is too secretive still and doesn't reassure you, and you cannot communicate, or give him the benefit of a doubt, then you do need to leave.
  • Jun 29, 2011, 01:57 AM
    SMURFIE01
    I had the same problem, me and my boyfriend moved in together and things changed allot, but just remember if you can't talk openly then things is just going to go down hill from there and trust is a major issue when the relationship is serious. Try talking to him and tell him how you feel and ask him how he would feel if the situation was vise-versa? If he does not want to talk to you about it then you have a problem. Communication, trust and sex plays a major role in a good healthy relationship. When I talked to my boyfriend now husband about his fb friends he said he didn't know it affected me and he closed his account and as for the girls, when you go out with him don't wait for him to introduce you. Be bold and introduce yourself and make sure they understand that he is your man. For the sex part try different approaches and never be shy. Dress in a sexy outfit, give him a lap dance and you don't have to be a pro he will appreciate the idea. Men are actually very easy to please, just think like a guy.

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