My husband never married my step son mother. We have been married for 17 years and during this time we have had nothing but issues with person. Recently my 18 year old stepson was in an automobile accident. His mom called our home to tell my husband. We rushed to the hospital. It was scary because we did not know any details. When we reached the hospital my husband walks over to his baby mama and placed his hand on her shoulder to ask how he was and this disturbed the hell out of me. Why? I'm secure in marriage and certainly do not feel threaten by the baby mama. Is it because I saw my husband show concern to someone who has given us nothing but problems?

Possibly.

But I find that rather irrelevant given the situation.

They share a son together so I think his action was normal and the main focus now should be on your stepson's recovery.

Yes, they share a son together and at one point had a bond. There is still a joint concern over their child. Sad that they can not get along to be a better support for the child, but it shows they are both there for child, just not for each other.

It should not bother you at all, it was their time to share over concern for their son.

In times of serious needs, of course they console each other. Your husband sounds like a great caring guy, and you shouldn't be put off because obviously you have no lost love where she is concerned. Suck it up, its about there kid together.

Don't worry, when his son gets better, they go back to the way its always been.