We have been together for four years, we live together, and he has been this way the whole time. We have sex about 2-5 times per month. Always and only when he initiates. Anytime I try to he turns me down... every time. I've tried talking to him about it dozens of times... and it always turns into me being the one with a problem. Now this whole time he says its just because he doesn't care about sex that much, etc. Yet I literally have found proof he jerks it probably more often than we have sex. I tried talking to him about it again and he threatened to leave... I don't know anymore. Any advice?? :/

How old are you both?

36 & 27, he's younger

He threatens to leave when you want to talk about issues you have? That's not a good sign.

Communication is key. If you don't have that, you don't have anything. Sounds like you don't have anything.

Let him leave. If he doesn't care enough about your relationship to talk about things that are bothering you, then why bother with him? He's not into the relationship, that's obvious.

Sounds like he does not care about what is important to you.
Let him leave.

I'm with the others here... If he threatens to leave because you want communication? Well, how do you think it would be if you two were married?

If you aren't worth the communication, or the time, then goodbye, so long, farewell.


I would let him leave.