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  • Jun 24, 2011, 07:20 PM
    ahay19
    Why is my best friend still mad at me?
    So about two weeks ago, me and my best friend got in a little bit of a disagreement. It was over a small little thing and I didn't think it was a big deal. But the next day I tried to talk to her and she ignored me. She did this for a week. Then I realised that I had over reacted a bit which is why the argument took place, I realised I needed to apologise and I had done something wrong. Some of my other close friends said that she had no reason to be mad at me, but I knew otherwise. So I gave her a huge apology and promised her that I wouldn't over react again, and what not. All she said was "ok." She talked to me, but she still acted really mad. So I gave a big genuine speech about how I really hope we can make up and I apologised again and stuff. She just said "give me some more time." So I said okay. This is strange, because we have gotten in small disagreements before, but usually we just say sorry and agree to disagree and everything is best kind. But this time it is different. So its been a week since she asked for more time, and her birthday party is going on right now. We were so close this year, we were always there for each other, we shared so many secrets, memories, and insiders, so I could not believe this one small disagrement would mean she wouldn't want me at her party and she would still not want to talk to me 2 weeks later. Summer is just beginning and I should be really happy, but I can't, I hate friends being so mad at me, especially one of my very best. Why do you think she is still mad? & What do you think I should I do? Thank you so much.
  • Jun 27, 2011, 03:15 AM
    joypulv
    You have done all you can do. You may have lost her, you may not. Don't rush it or you really will lose her.
    Do you realize that you are contradicting yourself here? You keep saying it was a little disagreement, then you say you overreacted and a big apology was needed. It's impossible to know online which of you might be the one who is too sensitive (or if you both do, or if it varies). All you can do while waiting is work on yourself. Ask another friend to be honest with you this time, rather than being supportive, about any possible tendencies to overreact.

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