So he would reply to ads and get pictures from girls and would tell them where he lived. He also sent a picture of himself to them. He also told one girl to come over. When I asked him about it he said that he was doing all this for his friend (some of the pics were sent to said friend). When I asked why he did it behind my back he said it was because his friend always helped him out with money etc.
I believed him and gave him another chance but recently I found an email where he was asking a guy on craigslist abut the price of pictures of nude girls. When I asked if he still went on craigslist he lied to my face and made up excuses. Now I don't know if I believe him about the craigslist for his friend situation. What do you think?

Sounds like he has a porn addiction.

Most boys who have internet watch porn, but contacting and responding to them is asking for trouble. You have seen that he has forwarded them to his friend too, so both are involved. So, even if he is really doing it for his friend, it will just bring trouble. Somehow, he has to realize that.

For a friend?

He sends pictures of himself on behalf of a friend?


No-he's lying and I'm sorry-time to get a better boyfriend.

Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, I don't think so!

This boyfriend of yours is exchanging pictures with other women. He is also exchanging other information, like where he lives, and, he has invited (at least) one to his home. He shops on Craig's List and engages with sellers of pictures of women. He lies to your face, and makes up stories.

You have really no idea what this man is up to; how many women he is involved with, for what purpose, for how long.

Porn is one thing, but this isn't about movies and books. It's about an active pursuit of other women.

At the least, his behaviour is risky, and you should use extra caution.

Without any honest discussion about what is going on with him, how can you trust anything he says or does.

You're right not to believe him. Sorry, but I'm going to have to agree with everyone else. He's acting shady and untrustworthy. You deserve a lot better than that.

If you want, you can demand an explanation out of him. Honestly, I'd just dtmfa.

I can see nothing to believe in any of his explanations.

Your health is at risk as I see this situation , and maybe your safety if he is giving out the address.

I would get myself a new address by myself.

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Originally Posted by fallintoautumn

You're right not to believe him. Sorry, but I'm going to have to agree with everyone else. He's acting shady and untrustworthy. You deserve a lot better than that.

If you want, you can demand an explanation out of him. Honestly, I'd just dtmfa.

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Your language (coded or not) is completely unacceptable. This is not a chat board.

Minimally your boyfriend is a liar. Can you live with that?

I suspect you know what the answer is or you wouldn't have posted here, asking for validation.

I am tempted to ask for more background, but quite frankly you seem to be snooping and he is behaving in a very dangerous and unhealthy way.

Even if he is doing any of this for 'his friend', there are boundaries for even for best friends who have saved lives.

That he would allow a friendship to cause him to disrespect your relationship is a huge red flag, IF you believe his story. I don't think anyone here does, so I hope you don't.

There doesn't appear to be any trust left and no attempt at re-building it. So let him and the relationship go before you become bitter and consumed by anger. The damage is done. No need to add more that will only turn an emotional dust cloud into full-blown storm.

I didn't realize there were guidelines like that here. However, I'm new and will recognize that in the future.

I'm sorry but this is just my opinion.

If I was in the same situation, I would leave him.
Why he's looking for other girls? One of reasons could be he wants to have new girlfriend
Which is better hopefully than current relationship. Then why he's making excuse
To deny? He didn't find one yet. Or he's just the type who wants to have fun meeting
Many girls. Whatever the true reason is, it's not really important.

Important thing is you should leave him, it doesn't make any harm to you.
But taking his **** is obvious no worth and might harm your belief for men and
Your future relationship. The reason you should leave him is not he did it behind your back
Actually. The reason is you can't change him other than himself. So he will do it again.
And you deserve better than that.

The trust between the two of you has been violated in a huge way. And on multiple occasions at that. Are you going to forgive him and let this go or will this haunt you and be an issue? No one can or will blame you if you leave. Is this the kind of person you really want to spend your life with?