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  • Jun 15, 2011, 12:05 PM
    treetree
    is this person abusive?
    Ive been seeing this guy for just two months and only met up with him on 6 occasions.The 3rd time I saw him he was OK and said he was in love with me! but very aggressive to a friend arguing.The 4th time he was a little strange and made a comment out of the blue if I ever left him he would break my legs!which I thought was just a strange joke.

    He is also v aggressive and selfish during sex,liking it all his own way and holds my throat or pulls my hair.But at first I thought this was just him being passionate?

    then the last two times I saw him he was v v strange.He was moody,argumentative.He pulled my wrists and then my hair in a playful way and then sat really trying to stare me out with a crazy expression on his face.He also told me if I ever left him he would kill me.

    He started suggesting how I should wear my hair and what clothes to wear.And if I wore lipstick he would get upset and say that I didn't want to kiss him!
    He also asked how many boyfriends I had and seemed v jealous over silly things.And told me I shouldn't wear sunglasses or whistle,because that's what men do!

    When I first met him he seemed my ideal and now I am v confused what to think and whether to see him again.He keeps getting his friends and family to phone me saying he is crying and upset and why am I doing this to him?My mind is spinning.I try to speak to him about these issues,but he won't listen or understand.It's like he's in a world of his own.
  • Jun 15, 2011, 12:15 PM
    aliseaodo

    Treetree, pretend you are reading this post as if another person wrote it.. it's obvious there is something not quite right with this guy, I would absolutely call it quits...
  • Jun 15, 2011, 12:52 PM
    eydie
    Run! Yes, he is abusive. He started being verbally abusive and he's escalating to physical abuse. He is controlling and he is attempting to isolate you from others and tell you every move to make. Please, get away from him immediately. Abusers don't change, they get worse and often times, they end up killing the person they are abusing.

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