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  • Jun 13, 2011, 11:30 AM
    CASHAKAMRNYC1
    My girlfriend lost sex drive due to loss of job
    My girlfriend of one year has lost her sex drive due to being laid off and maybe having some medical problems, she is waiting on a doctor appointment. My question is how do I go about this. I need sex in my relationship or at least some kind of physical interactions. I understand she is going through a lot as I am the one right by her side helping her physically, financially and mentally, basically anything she needs, but still no sex or no sexual activities, I have needs as well, and I'm starting to be unhappy due to the lack of sex, but I love her and will not give up on her just for that but, I just need to know how I can get the sex back even though she is going through all of this?
  • Jun 13, 2011, 01:05 PM
    I wish

    Harshness warning

    Quit being selfish! If you really loved her, you would be supporting her while she tries to find another job.
  • Jun 13, 2011, 10:46 PM
    talaniman

    This is simple, take a porn magazine to the bathroom with you, and relieve yourself, and understand that your female is too traumatized right now to help you out in the sex area, so you should take care of your own needs.

    There are many times in a relationship when a partner cannot help the other, either due to illness, injury, or accident. If you cannot put your needs aside until she can feel a lot better, then you are not much of a partner, or have a wacky idea what love really is.

    What would you do if she got pregnant, and couldn't have sex for 9 months? Come on guy, put those needs aside and help your female get through what is obviously a very hard time. You will be glad you need.
  • Jul 9, 2011, 12:17 AM
    Pleasehelpme411
    Look bud, I'll be brutally honest, I'm not too much of a fan of people who think nothing but sex, but I'll give you my suggestion anyway.
    When a person loses their job, and finds out bad medical results. The last thing on your mind should be sex, and the last thing on her mind is sex. She is facing important things that she just lost and got shoved down 3 a couple steps. A job, and your health is the most important things you'll do and keep track of in your life. I understand some people have a high sex drive, but if your looking for just sex, while she's facing a horrific time in her life, then shame really goes on you for being selfish. Like I said, this isn't the prettiest response, but you seek help and I'm not going to lie. She needs your support, spending nights looking for a job for her, or boosting her confidence and getting her mind off medical results when she's too stressed out, and finding help on how to help her with her "medical problem" there will always be a simple cure, but there will always be a hard progress.

    You can find 1000 cures for low sex drive, but only 1 cure for a relationship, and that is you supporting her through the rough time.
    Sometimes the answer is the question.
    If you get my drift.

    I know I wouldn't want to have sex, knowing I lost my job and have medical problems that I either don't know about or waiting for a doctor appointment for. I wouldn't want it getting worse.

    Anyway, Hope this helps. Think of her for a while. Until she's on her feet

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