Does a bi guy becomes more gay by acting on the gay side?
Hi!
I'm a 29-year-old bi guy, more on the gay side, physically and sexually but not emotionally speaking. Now I'm not in a relationship with either gender but I feel I shouldn't have acted on gay feelings at all. Ok, I might enjoy a quickie with males but I don't feel fulfilled after. Whereas with girls it's more the issue of being able to get it up... It's this irrational fear,I believe, that makes me stay a bit away from girls.
Do you think that acting on the gay thoughts makes one more gay or not?
Do you think I should stop seeing males, and date with the other sex exclusively? (I know you may say I feel pressurized to do and behave in a way that is considered normal by others. But I can't hide the fact either that I want a family life, which I don't picture with a male).
[Where I live - a small country in Europe- life for a bisexual is more difficult, as people are not so open-mined about bisexuality, let alone homosexuality... lol.]
What do you suggest that I do?
Thanks a lot for taking your time to read it.
Comment on Cat1864's post
Thanks for your comment! Well my relationships with males and females have been neither long nor steady. With males, to be honest, it's not something I have wanted to, in the first place. But, with females, it's the other way around. I want something longer-lasting, stable, and concrete. I mean, I'm not really quickies if I might put it like this. In a woman, I seek intelligence, and good looks (but not Miss Universe... lol). Given that I want something deeper I tend to a bit reserved when it comes to using body language. ( I mean going for a kiss right away etc). And this shyness, I think makes them, say, go off me.
But what really worries me the most is that with males I tend to get an erection more easily. Sometimes, even by thought.
What you said in the last paragraph makes so much sense to me.
Thanks again.
Comment on FadedMaster's post
Thanks for your comment. I think I fool around with guys due to those thoughts I have. But, that's it; I mean, I don't see anything long-lasting with them, concerning my life.
Comment on Cat1864's post
All right, I feel much better now having read your comments... Thank you again for sharing them!
Comment on SindySweets's post
Thanks for your answer! My only concern is that I tend to get erection more easily with males, and this I fear could affect my possible future marriage. Thank you again.
Frustration from being bisexual
Hi, I'm a 29-year-old bi guy. I think I'm more on the gay side, sexually speaking. The problem is that when I'm with a male I don't feel fulfilled, especially emotionally speaking. However, many times I feel I'm going crazy thinking about a particular girl or guy. In fact, with males - excluding the last one I met- I don't feel much emotional attachment. It's not all about sex, but I'm so worried about this frustration I feel time and again.
What should I do?
Thanks!
Comment on JudyKayTee's post
You're right, but here I hoped to get somewhat different advice. Thanks anyway...
Comment on talaniman's post
Hey, Talaniman... I really appreciate your long, and professional opinion you've given above. You're just right in stating that I should stop worrying about my concern expressed in the posting, and live life as it comes, absurd as it is...
Thank you all again for the awesome job you do!