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  • Jun 6, 2011, 11:06 AM
    dategirl
    He arranges dates then cancels?
    I met this guy 3 weeks ago when out with mutual friends, we are ended up at the same house party and sharing a bed. I had to leave early in the morning and when I got home he had added me on Facebook and messaged me. We started talking via Facebook loads then we exchanged numbers. I was away all weekend and we text the whole time, then we met on the Monday. We had a great evening, and I spent the next day with him. We arranged to meet the following week due to work and friend commitments. But it just never happened, the morning I was meant to meet him, he messaged me saying he was ill, then spoke to me pretty much all day via chat, again we said we would meet up the week after. I did not text him, but he kept messaging me on FB and we spoke continuously. Again it was him who wanted me to go and see him, he asked me to come over on the Monday after he had finished work. Then on the Monday afternoon, he messaged saying he as held up in work could we do it weds? I don't understand why he arranges things and then pulls out. His excuses may be true but I am not sure. What should I do?
  • Jun 6, 2011, 10:00 PM
    talaniman
    All that messaging, and talking should have answered your questions already.

    That's my advice, get answers as to why he can't keep his word since you keep in touch, but its obvious you are not a very high priority on his want to do list. Find out why, and if you are not satisfied with his answers, waste no more time on him.
  • Jun 7, 2011, 12:59 AM
    amicon

    If he was really keen,he'd not cancel on you-twice-so ask him
    And if you don't like what you hear-let it go.
  • Jun 22, 2011, 07:41 PM
    PaintedThunder
    Be upfront with him. You clearly like the guy or you wouldn't be this patient, am I right?

    Call him, text him or Facebook him and make a date one last time. If he cancels yet again- I'd speak-up. Ask him if he's ever going to actually see you or if he's going to keep canceling. Because you're not going to wait around for him forever. Tell him you're getting tired of being let-down.

    He'll either give you a straight-up answer, make changed so that it works or he'll let you go and you'll know he's not worth your time.

    Good luck!

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