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  • Jun 6, 2011, 04:41 AM
    unknown3
    3 years age difference
    Im 16 years old and about to turn 17 in few weeks. My girlfriend is 13 years old and about to turn 14 in a month. I have no intentions of doing anything wrong or do something which we will regret later!but I have some questions in my head... Am I too old for her?or is she too young? Can anyone fall in love at her age? Is this relation okay? Please help
  • Jun 15, 2011, 03:53 PM
    KyronWallace
    You have to be very careful on what you do in the relationship, because if too many people find out there will be one person that will phone the police. But providing you don't do anything sexual to the girl and only kiss at the moment, I don't see a problem with it and yes people can fall in love at any age it's just not all the time real love. Hope it helps :)
  • Jun 15, 2011, 04:02 PM
    Alty

    If you're wondering about it, then obviously it's not okay with you. If it were okay, you wouldn't be asking. Right?

    Fact is, if you two do go two far, you could end up in jail at worst, but definitely on a sexual offenders list for the rest of your life, so make sure you don't take it too far if you decide to continue dating her.

    Another fact. She's 13, you're 16. Statistically speaking, you won't be in a relationship for long.

    Dating isn't against the law, going further is, so keep that in mind. :)
  • Jun 15, 2011, 05:03 PM
    ScottGem

    The first question is what do her parents say about this? Because if they are not aware AND have given their permission, then you need to stop it now.

    Second, as Altenweg suggested, the very fact that you are asking indicates its not completely OK with you.

    In my opinion, there is very little future in this relationship. As you get older your interests are going to change and you will drift farther apart. At least until she becomes an adult.
  • Jun 15, 2011, 06:39 PM
    Fr_Chuck

    Remember that at 13, she is considered not only a minor but a child. And while you know having sex would send you to jail. So as a to be 17 year old, how many years if you keep dating, will you go without sex. It would be 3 to 5 years depending on where you live. Not a realistic time frame in today's kids dating,

    Also at 13, just touching her even though the clothing could be considered molesting a child, in many area.

    Beyond that what will her parents say about her dating a 17 year old.
  • Jun 15, 2011, 07:00 PM
    Alty

    Yes, I forgot to mention that at her age, parental permission to date her is a must.

    You're almost an adult. She's still a child. There are many things that you could do that would be considered illegal.

    Again, you asked this question, so I have to assume that you know this is wrong, otherwise you wouldn't be asking.

    End it now, that's your best option. If you're both still interested in each other in 5 years, date then. Then you'll both be legal to do what you want.

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