Hello, I met this guy and he's 28 years old. We have been talking for 5 months now, although we haven't met yet, but will soon. I am wanting to know, how can I adapt to his sexual cravings? I am 40 and he is 28. Hes a young guy, I know and he says he's a freak, but the things that he wants in the relationship, I have never experienced them before, and he wants to bring another female into our relationship. Is it wrong for me to feel uncomfortable about this. I told him that I was willing to do whatever it took to make him happy, and to keep him happy, but I just don't feel the same now as I did in the beginning. Please help me but, I know where my mind is already, just need a little advice,help me



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he wants to bring another female into our relationship.is it wrong for me to feel uncomfortable about this.I told him that I was willing to do whatever it took to make him happy and to keep him happy

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Why are you so eager to make him happy and keep him happy? What about your happiness, your wants, your needs?

If you're not comfortable doing what he wants then you tell him. If he can't accept that then I have to wonder what sort of relationship this is to begin with.

It sounds to me like he wants a bit of slap and tickle. He's young, is fantasizing about a threesome, and thinks that since you're older you'll do anything he wants in order to keep him, the young stud. Sadly, it sounds like that's exactly what you're willing to do.

If you act like a free whore, that's the way you will be treated.

My advice, is you be very careful with people you meet online because just because they say things, and sound good, they are still strangers to be cautious about. You have been talking all this titillating stuff, but you never know what the truth is about them, or what there real intentions are.

While you have high expectations, and hopes of thrills to come, be very careful, as you trust no one without seeing how they really are. That's my advice, be careful. Let no one use you, or talk you into anything that's to strange or weird.

No its never wrong to rethink things, and look out for yourself.

Well actually not.because I wasn't raised up to share my man with no woman,young or old.I said I was willing to but as I have sat and thought about it,it makes no sense to me.I am not a freak nor will I ever be.he says that he likes all kinds of freaky things.me personally,thinks he is somewhat bi- sexual.not just because he's a so called freak but just some of the things that he likes in the relstionship.I am not going to subject myself to uncomfortable things just because he is young,by no means necessary.

He's a jerk,and may well be a freak-the easy solution to this is- don't meet him!

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Originally Posted by mstaylor40

Hello, I met this guy and he's 28 years old. We have been talking for 5 months now, although we haven't met yet, but will soon. I am wanting to know, how can I adapt to his sexual cravings? I am 40 and he is 28. Hes a young guy, I know and he says hes a freak, but the things that he wants in the relationship, I have never experienced them before, and he wants to bring another female into our relationship. Is it wrong for me to feel uncomfortable about this. I told him that i was willing to do whatever it took to make him happy, and to keep him happy, but i just don't feel the same now as I did in the beginning. Please help me but, I know where my mind is already, just need a little advice,help me

Question, why are you entertaining his conversations ? Delete his details and move on....

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well actually not.because i wasn't raised up to share my man with no woman,young or old.i said i was willing to but as i have sat and thought about it,it makes no sence to me.i am not a freak nor will i ever be.he says that he likes all kinds of freaky things.me personally,thinks he is somewhat bi- sexual.not just because hes a so called freak but just some of the things that he likes in the relstionship.i am not gonna subject myself to uncomfortable things just because he is young,by no means neccesary.

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The thing is, you don't know this person. Chatting online is not knowing someone.

He freely admits he's a "freak". What does that entail? Is it just a threesome he's after, or something you're not comfortable with?

It's time to meet people in real life and stop meeting people online. They could be anyone. To give yourself so freely to a person you really don't know is scary. It won't end well. I suggest you end it now. Find someone you can meet face to face from the get go. Get to know the person before you consider sexual contact.

I totally agree 100%. The more I think about it, the more it becomes real in my eyes.I need unconditional love, and that's not close to what he wanted to give me. So to him, happy trails. I will find someone who will truly love me, just for me.

You are definitely better off with someone who wants the same thing as you, as well as having similar values and beliefs.