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  • Jun 5, 2011, 01:58 AM
    Colormepie
    Boyfriend and I are taking a break, how do I deal?
    My boyfriend and I have been dating for 13months. We decided soon after our 13months that we should take a break. Since I'm going to be out of state for 2months of summer break.
    He's a year and some months older. So he's already gone partying and things. He says this will be a perfect opportunity for me to get partying and dating other guys out of my system.
    We've also been having very dull and boring conversations lately. I'm praying that when I get back in August that will change.

    We still talk and sometimes even call each other at times. It's been about two/three weeks into our break. And I miss him, so much. He's my best friend and I now don't talk to people about my problems.
    Pretty much, after reading all this, I wanted to know if anyone has been through something similar and if this worked for them. And if anyone has tips for getting through these 3months.
  • Jun 5, 2011, 06:22 AM
    talaniman

    Well this whole break was about you both having a great time and see what happens after the summer, so I suggest doing exactly that. Take the opportunity of having a great time with making friends, both female and male and enjoy every minute of it.

    For sure he will. It may be a very healthy thing for you if you have no other friends besides him to confide in and enjoy sharing. You may appreciate each other more or you may not, through absence, and that's the risk with any break.

    If you see this as a bad thing you will worry and fret. If you see this as an opportunity to grow within yourself, you will get from it something great. You are still in contact though, so you have to see how it goes.
  • Jun 5, 2011, 06:25 AM
    amicon

    I think you know that healthy relationships don't need breaks.

    In a healthy relationship both parties work together to overcome problems.

    I suggest you treat this as a break up,as most breaks really are,and go live your own life-as he is already!
  • Jun 6, 2011, 02:38 PM
    ljubljanan
    Um don't take a break if you don't want to. Obviously the break is doing nothing for you. You should call him if you want to and talk to him if you want to. Break Shmake. If you don't like it, tell him and tell him what you want to do instead. It doesn't sound like you want to date other people or like this break is worth it.

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