Comment on Jake2008's post
Thanks, your feedback was very helpful. Yes, I stopped the intimacy because I wanted to be clear that I wanted more than that, and he seemed to understand. I think you are right that we do need a further conversation. Two days ago I told him that my feelings for him haven't changed, but that I dated out of frustration that things were not progressing. I get the sense that he may not be ready to come to an understanding just yet: one, I think he went on date #2 today (with the same woman) and two, the issue of his finances is still a concern for him. Either way, I need to be more clear than I am. I, too thought it odd that he would be going out with a new woman and then telling her about me. Also, he told her that he told me about her, also. What do you think this means?
Comment on ironhide262's post
I guess in my heart of hearts I want to know more definitively whether its over or whether we can come to some kind of understanding...
Comment on Jake2008's post
I don't think he would be open to counseling at this point. In terms of "testing the waters" you may be right. He mentioned that after his divorce he didn't date, and some friends have suggested to him that he should date, or go out and make more of an effort to be social (he's a hardcore homebody). On this, I would argue that he should be dating me, not the new lady. What is the point of dating her or testing the waters if he's already told her he's not in a financial position to date her, either.