I have recently been getting to know someone, I see him every morning on my way to work, he gives me a cheeky smile every morning, I have recently been talking to him, and we have become very close, I had split up with my boyfriend because of this, as I had stronger feelings for the new one, then I did for my boyfriend.

Since I split with my other half, I have seen this new one like everyday, just watching dvd's, going for a drink.
But he sends me mixed messages, he has been single for a while and was recently 'seeing' someone but broke it off with her because he wanted me.

He sends me messages all day calling me 'HIS Girl' and how sexy and beautiful I am, and how I make his smile when he sees me...

But over the last few nights he seems off, not talking as much, asking me what time I'm leaving, fewer kisses or cuddles, but then when I get home he texts me '' night my sexy baby, had a good night missing you already''??

Talk about confussed.com but I don't want to keep chasing after him??

What should I do? Help!! Xxxxx

How recent is 'recent', a few days? A few weeks?

Your in the getting to know you stage, the dating stage BEFORE the relationship! as time goes on you may find he's not the bees knees you thought he was, he may think the same way about you, he sounds a bit hot and cold.

Your just out of a relationship and have jumped into another one, or at least seeing another guy, and so has he.

Be straight up with him,ask him why he's hot and cold.
Keep seeing your own friends too, don't spend all your time with him, and if/when it ends, give yourself some time before you start dating again.

Given you have left one guy and, are latching on to a better one, or so you think, it may be better to back up, and slow down some, and find out who you are dealing with, and have some time doing other things besides being about him so much.

Just to soon to be objective, or clear headed about this right now, seems to me. He just broke up too, and dispute the attraction, or temptations, maybe neither of you is ready for a healthy adult relationship right now, and just need to have fun with good company.

He may seem hot and cold, because he isn't so gung ho into jumping into something tempting so fast.

I would spend much less time with him. Let him chase you. Especially now - in the very beginning..

One thing to consider - he may have been more interested in you when you were less attainable/had a bf/safe. Now that you're "available" - he may not be as interested.

Sounds like you're on a rebound and you want to jump back into a serious relationship right away.

From his perspective, it seems like he's just enjoying what you've got going on and going with the flow Therefore, you're not on the same page.

I see two choices. Either take a page out of his book and just enjoy what you're got going on and let things flow naturally. Or, take the initiative and ask him how serious he is about you.

Only you can decide what you think is best for you, but I would suggest that you ask yourself these questions.

Are you ready to be in another serious relationship so soon?

Do you really not enjoy what you have going on that you need to shake things up already?

Great Comments, I never thought of it like that.

'Recent' is within the last 3/4 weeks.

And I have already told him I don't want a relationship at the moment and I enjoy the way things are going.
But I don't want to be used at the same time either (if you know what I mean.)

I've tried not to go round and see him, but because he lives in the same area as me, and he drives past my work everyday, he pulls up and says hi,

I think I should just chill and stop worring, and what will be will be...

Thank you all for your comments, they have really helped :)

JJ xx

Just chill and stop worrying. That's the best advice. Just remember to take it.

If you don't want to be used, then don't do anything that you feel uncomfortable with. Just stick to your comfort zone. As he gains your trust, which will take time, then you can open up to him more and more.