I am African American female and my boyfriend is a gypsy Romanian... he is from Europe. He is very attracted to black girls. He likes Beyonce, and I kind of resemble her. I know that's one of the reasons he wanted to be with me... lol. Lately he has been saying very ignorant comments. One time when we were arguing he tells me go be with one of your nigger people! I was so disgusted! The other day we had a disagreement,because he said something so silly. I raised my voice at him, and he says to me, all black girls are loud and ghetto! I am not loud at all and he knows that! I'm not ghetto! Difantly wasn't raised in the ghetto. So when he says these things I just see him being ignorant. Is my boyfriend ignorant? Like what the hell is wrong with him? I know he loves me and is very attracted to me, so why does he say these things?

Because he's an ignorant j**k-and should be dumped-the question isn't what's wrong with him-the question is what's right with him?

And the answer seems to be -not a lot.

Time to dump!

He is who he is, an ignorant jerk, but the real question is why you put up with his ignorance. He behaves badly, and cruelly, because you allow it, and there are no consequences for it.

So ask yourself, why do you go along with his abuse, and assault on your culture, and heritage???

I would hazard a guess that Beyonce NEVER would!!

You know in the "hood" here in Atlanta, I hear black men telling the women a lot worst than that. They call them the N word ( and call each other it also) And the term "go ghetto" is so common amount black people, to each other.

People often in relationship say stupid things to hurt the other person when they are mad. Obviously he has found a button that upsets you and is using it.

How long have you been dating? Have you tried talking to him when things have cooled off and explaining why you get upset when he says these things? Are you sure you haven't been trying to push some of his buttons, too, or hit them by accident?

If you think it is ignorance and not malice, then sit down and talk to him when you are both calm. Ignorance can be cured if the person is willing to learn. Malice on the other hand is probably a reason to walk away. Someone who strikes out just because they can usually will find any weak point to exploit whether it is racial, cultural, personal or something else.