This is about an affair which started with the true feeling of love and future marriage by me and I was sure that from the guys end too the feelings are mutual we were together for 23 months , I was very shy and never preffered being physical but he first startes kissing me with the assurance that don't worry at all you are the one then we got more closer in terms of touching each other sucking etc I was insure in deep down but trusted him for this ,then he did phone sex as we were apart but in last oct we he broak up with me due to his parents un willingness for marriage but I think when you love some one no one can stop u,he went I fought with him ,I cried , I begged ,I cursed even but nothing changed he now hates me and is some onther girl . I am very depressed due to this I feel as I'm a use and throw glass ,he insulted my dignity ,he broke his promise, I'm very depressed help me.

Shikah,
I understand how you feel and believe me a lot of us have been in the same pace you are at the moment and the only consolation I can offer is that you will get through this. I understand how hard it must have been for you to let your guard down with this guy only to have him do what he did but it is important that you know that ending the relationship was his choice and you cannot blame yourself for that. Sadly, there are some people in this world who have no respect for other people's feelings and just like to get what they want and then dispose of others but if you keep beating yourself up, you will give him the satisfaction of thinking that he has used you and then dumped you. You must not let him think that you are not worth anything when in fact you are worth more than gold. As far as you were concerned, you were in love and you acted on that love, you gave yourself to him in love (which is what most people do), all you did was show him love and he threw it back in your face as if your love was not good enough. Well let me tell you something, you love is more than good enough and there are other men out there who would appreciate your love more than he ever did. With true love you see, you never have to constantly worry about not giving enough because love will be all you need. I guess what I'm trying to say is that you shouldn't be depressed, that if anything your relationship has taught you how to love and that he is the one who should be depressed because he missed out on your love. You shouldn't beat yourself up and never ever allow yourself to think that anyone has the ability to take away your dignity, it is yours for as long as you have it people can only take it away when you allow them to think that they have taken it from you. Girl, you have no need to be depressed over this guy if he does not know a good thing when he sees it then you cannot help him, let him go about his business and you work on your own. You work on yourself, your career, your health and your future and look for someone who will appreciate you. You have no reason to be depressed only happy, happy that you got rid of this guy before he brought you down.