Girlfriend left with no explanation after almost 8 years. Depressed as all hell.
I was in a serious relationship with my ex girlfriend/fiancee for 7 years and 7 months before the first unexpected breakup. Before I get to my question I'll give some backstory.
I first met my girlfriend in the 10th grade in spanish class. When we first met we hit it off as friends and after we graduated from High School we started dating in 2003. Fast forward to now we were always in sync with each other: nicknames, finishing each other sentences, calling each other at the exact moment the other was thinking about the other.I asked her to be my wife on New Years 2009 and she was gushing with excitement and we had started making plans and everything and I could give out her first name and it would pop up instantly in Google our wedding registry because she has a unique name but I won't.
We never had any problems until march 29th. She told me that we need to break up. Naturally it caught me off guard and she basically said she just wanted to be by herself and that she wanted some space just for herself. We cried and went our separate ways. 10 days later we start talking again and I'm thinking "Thank GOD". We start hanging out again and talking every now and then. I take her out for her birthday (may 2nd) and we make plans to go to the movies and everything else.
On may 10th I heard nothing from her. The next morning she tells me she was just tired and went to bed early and that was fine. The next night after she gets off work she calls and says and I quote:"I can't do this anymore. I can't see you anymore.I can't talk to you anymore" and then she hung up and cut her phone off. Really? After all we've done together it ends like that? I sent her two text messages and left a phone message and she hasn't responded to this day. I remember after the first time we broke up she said that's that what she thought she wanted to do but she could never truly give me up. She also said that all she had was memories of us and not just her by herself. It sounds like she just wants to be independent and build memories of her own so why not just say it?
So why the change of heart again? Two days before she broke up with me she was talking about moving in with me again and seeing a movie that Friday. What could cause someone to change so quickly like that? She was my best friend for almost 10 years and that's how she ends it all. Im having trouble moving on and I would appreciate everyone's opinion because I know I will never get closure on this but I need help. I loved her with all of my heart. I am still completely head over hills for her. I text once every 3 days just reminding her I still love her but in my heart I don't believe she'll ever come back.Also if anyone out there is thinking of breaking up without giving their partner at least something to close with, please don't. It's the one of the worst feelings I've ever experienced.
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Yup, time flies. Thanks man. I owe a lot to you. Im here for good.