Hi everyone! It's my first post here... and here's the problem: I am 24 and have been hanging out with this girl for almost 5 years now.I consider her to be my best female friend and then this happened. For the first year of our friendship she was just a cool friend that turned out to be an amazing friend in the end. I never thought of her as more than a friend but after one and a half year it just struck me and I fell for her. I was hiding it for almost 4 years now because I didn't want to lose her as a friend, because she is in a relationship 3 years now and also this had happened to her before and I did't want to hurt her feelings. The thing is that about a month ago I just couldn't hide it anymore so I talked. At first she wouldn't believe me but after hours of talking she said that had I told her when we first met we would have been together and that she didn't want to lose me now after that. I have tried twice to call her and I have texted her twice but nothing... she won't answer. What to do?? Any opinions why she is acting that way?. I feel pretty bad and I would appreciate any help.

As she said, had you told her in the beginning things may have happened, so obviously she had been fighting her feelings for you too at one stage. No doubt she's probably completely confused now and giving herself time to think. I'm not saying she will choose to be with you but it was probably a bit of a shock.

Give her that time! She also made it clear she doesn't want things to change between you two , meaning she still wants to be friends, so I'm sure she will get in touch.

You have to leave her alone my friend, because she obviously is a bit confused by your confession of feelings, and needs time to process the whole thing. Sounds like bad timing, and you just have to wait for a better time to present itself. Best to be doing your own thing until she is unconfused.

You have to admit, after 5 years of being friends, it's a lot to process all of a sudden. Let her get over the shock, and other things she may be dealing with.

Not really clear when it is you texted her and how long it is taking her to respond. Maybe her phone got wet, lost your number, been busy. All those are reasons don't jump to conclusions if it has been a short period. Also, just in case that she IS in fact avoiding you you need to back off and let her breath so that she can think about what to do with you, because such news should have caused some confusion to her and she is probably just sorting stuff out. However, you hovering over her is not going to help any,

Good Luck,
Javi