Hi I'm 18 years old my boy friend is 20 we have been together for almost 3 years and its been about a year that we haven't had much sex, I cheated on him before and I also gained about 20 pounds, he always wants to have sex like before since we would have sex almosy daily but now I NEVER want to. Its probably once or twice a month that we have sex. I want ot have sex with him but I don't know why I feel like I shouldn't? I really need help!

Maybe you are uncomfortable with your own body; maybe you are no longer sexually attracted to him; maybe it's some sort of "moral" problem.

Have you had a physical check up recently? There could be a physical problem.

Does he know that you cheated on him? If not, maybe it is some internal guilt stopping you from having sex with him.

Or is it yourself body image causing you to lose your sex drive? If this is the case then hit a pilates class, tone that bum and feel good about yourself and rock his world.

Take care xx