Hope for a relationship with a man who is scared?
So I've been seeing this guy for 5 months now. Things started great, he would contact me every day and we would see each other every few days. We admitted feelings for each other, but he also told me he hasn't had a girlfriend in 4 years and the last girl broke his heart. He told me he in insecure with himself and wants to change. After 2 months, he told me he saw a future with me. He then stopped contacting me. I was hurt and confused but didn't chase after him. 2 months later, he started talking to me again. He said he got really scared and didn't know how to handle it and that he still liked me and even drove by my house a few times because he missed me so much. He has told me that he likes it when a girl will tell him where they stand and everything but I'm used to men pursuing me for a relationship. I have also had bad relationships and I have had a very hard time opening up my feelings to him and have yet to tell him how much I really do want this to work, but I'm worried about scaring him away. The last time we saw each other he told me he wants to date me. He told me he has a lock around his heart and it needs to get cracked open, and now once again he hasn't been talking to me first, I have been initiating contact. Does he want me to take the lead and chase him? Or is it hopeless expecting that this could actually lead to a relationship? Please don't give me the "he's using you for sex" we haven't done anything more than kissing. Thank you