I've been dating my boyfriend for about 9 months. I know it's a short amount of time, but when we were just talking he was all over me and now I'm all over him and he barely goes to bed with me at the same time any more. He would rather watch a TV show then fool around with me. We don't have sex yet because I'm a virgin and I really like him and want to lose it to him, but I want him to be just as invested in me as I am with him. I just don't know what to do anymore, it's so frustrating. When we do fool around I pleasure him so it's not like I'm leaving him out. I've tried everything and I don't want to have sex with him and have an even higher sex drive and he doesn't want to do anything and stays up watching TV all night while I'm in bed...

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You're a tease. No offense. He's probably tired of being teased for months and he's sexually frustrated. I understand and respect you being a virgin, but that's probably the issue here. Oral or any kind of "fooling around" is just going to make him want you more or want intercourse more... and you're not willing to go there so he's not willing to get all worked up for nothing. Some guys get upset to get all worked up like that and nothing be done afterwards, so to avoid getting upset with you when you have good reason they just avoid the situation altogether. If you ever decide to have intercourse, you will probably almost instantly see a difference, but don't just do it for that reason. Make sure it's what you really want to do, don't just do it to see if he's interested... he's been with you for 9 months. He's interested, he's just not wanting the let down anymore.

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