So I was with this man for couple of months we both 23. I decided to just cut him off a week a go as he was controlling abusive, manipulating sex mad lying rarly see. Uncaring nasty piece of work. I found out I was pregnant, I was on the pill but I forgot to take one.
I text him telling him as when tried phone him, he called me a *****, told me to shut the **** up before I could say anything. So text him telling him.
He text me back several hours later with series of texts saying "your a ***** you slept with a billion men and your used up how could i be dad.
" listen you ******* ***** you got mental problems you always talking **** am giving you one last ******* chance if you want to be with me me then don't talk like this, or else don't text me again what do you want from me"
"do you know who I am I know everything I know you can't be pregnant till 3 months"
"you ************ I got to go to bed I got work in morning"
And that was the last of series of texts.
I can't stand him and don't want to be with him but trying be desent and just tell him.

Okay, so it appears that you are going to be a single mother. I don't see an actual question here, so I'm not sure really how to respond. How can we help you?

I just wanted him to show abit of humanity.

It appears it's not going to happen.

Have you made any decisions about what you are going to do about your situation?

If you decide to keep the baby, make sure that you file for child support.

I wanted to keep it, I got good joba and my own place

Crystal, have you had the pregnancy confirmed by your gynecologist? How far along are you? Did he know about the missed pill?

You broke up with him a week ago because of his extremely negative traits. You then contact him to tell him he is going to be a father and expect him to 'show a bit of humanity.' As far as he may know at this time, you could be trying to manipulate him. Keep in mind that you have had a however long to get used to the idea of parenthood, he just got blind-sided and is striking out true to what seems to be his nature.

Give him some time to think about the concept of being a father and see if he contacts you.

Check into the child support laws in your area and find out what your legal obligations toward keeping him informed are and what his legal obligations toward the unborn child are.

I suggest only dealing with him through a designated (neutral) third party to keep your stress down and to limit the amount of 'abuse' he can deal out.

Take care of yourself.

I done 3 pregnancy test and all were positive, I booked apointment at docters. I just cut him off no text anything it wasn't as if he ever bothered text me any way. I tried speaking to him but before I could get word in he tod me to shut the f@uk up and he text me when he can link up. So text him. I didn't want to tell him if ever saw him in person as he scrary his behavior all over the place. I told him I don't want to be with him that am telling him as he has right to know and he flipped

He obviously doesn't want to be a part of this so leave him alone. You are on your own, make sure the baby will be fine and that he pays for his responsibility. Which is in the form of child support.

Good luck,
Javi

Crystal,

It's a good thing you left him and it seems that's how it should stay. How are you supposed to raise a child with somebody who clearly has no respect towards you? Also, no offense, (I'm glad you told him to kick rocks) but it doesn't seem that you approached it in the most rational way. I can understand your frustration with the kind of person he is, but insulting him while trying to explain that you are pregnant with his child is kind of like apologizing to somebody but saying you don't know what you're sorry for. Aggression will only breed more aggression. If you both think that you can speak to each other in the manner you do and at the same time think you can raise a child, sorry but you have lost your mind. No child deserves to be raised in a hostile and unstable environment which is probably the cause or influence of his behavior. If you want to keep the child, then great; but I wouldn't recommend dragging that guy into it if his past behavior is any indicator of what kind of person he would be around the child. I only hope you do what is best for not only yourself, but for the child as well. If you really want to get him to listen, I would try and say that you would like to apologize for what happened in the past and would like to wipe the slate clean and try to figure out how you both want to handle this situation in the most civil and rational way possible. But if it were me, I would wash my hands of a person like him because I can tell you that I have been with somebody like that and it only gets worse. He probably doesn't deserve any humble hand reaching out to him anyway. Please be safe. Best wishes.