Trying to avoid confrontation in custody issue?
Hi. I'm in Louisville ky Jefferson county. I'm asking about the best method to make sure I have sole physical custody of my 7 month old son. His dad and I never married. We do not have any written custody order. I was planning on writing a very detailed letter to him outlining my desire for us to parent without conflict. I want sol physical custody and we can have joint legal custody. With him having liberal visitation. My son is currently exclusively breastfed. I also practice attachment parenting. I in no water want to exclude my sons dad but at this young age I want my son to have safe surroundings. His dad is an alcoholic and has expressed that he will not refrain from drinking while my son is in his care. I have offered him unlimited visit at my home in a room that is designed just for he and our son. Also I have offered and do take my son to his residence to visit and will wait close by so that when the baby needs to be feed I am available. My question really how advantageous would it be for me to write a letter to the father. Letting hint know he is always welcome to visit and be involved. That I'm willing to always communicate as long as it is not confrontational. I wanted to have a write letter to show my intentions just encased he wants to file a motion for custody or to lie and say I told him he could not visit extent.