Need a female perspective
Hi, I will try not to drag this out too long but I really need to know what my ex girlfriend is thinking. We were together for 5 years and totally in love. For me anyway the type of love where looking at other women all I see is shapes and colors. She always told me things like I am her world and if anything ever happened to me she would never even look for another guy cause no one could ever compare. You know all the crap that people tell each other.
Ok so about a month ago she was offered a job in NYC. She accepted it. She asked me if I would come with her I said yes. About a week before breaking up with me she even sent me a job search website for NYC so I could find a job there. I work weekends so I told her I could commute till I found something down there. She told me she didn't want a part time boyfriend but I couldn't see any other way since I need a job till I found a replacement. I guess she kind of accepted that. Then a week later she dumped me she said it would never work. I only have a 2 year degree and there isn't any way to find a job there without a really good education. I said what do you mean it would never work when you are in love you make it work cause that whole love of your life thing only comes around once or twice in a lifetime. Bla bla bla...
While dumping me she cried harder than I ever seen anyone cry. She told me that she wishes that it didn't have to be this way and it sucks. I told her I don't know what else to offer her. I got up and said then I will go. And also wished her the best of luck and told her I hope she finds what she is looking for in life and wished her the best.
A couple other sidenotes. In passing she told me to figure something out stop being lazy and figure something out. Two years ago she broke up with me kind of just to get me off my ***. But in the end she said she couldn't be the dumb girl who let the love of her life get away. She met a few really "fun" single girls there so I am sure they had their input about saying things like you can do better and what are you doing with that loser. When I walked out I said goodbye she said I love you I said it back. I have not called her or txted her or been in contact in any way. I also have not said anything on Facebook. She posts all the time but hasn't called me either. It has been 2 weeks. I guess what my question is, is she trying to get me off my *** or is she really trying to just throw me away. I have been talking to a very nice gorgeous girl. She has recently been broken up with her boyfriend so I guess we are just going to use each other. Anyway I still feel like I am cheating on my ex. Just gimme some female insight on what is going on in her head please. She must miss me right?
Comment on Altenweg's post
I agree, sorry if I busted in as a male. Had to. Looking to the future is right! The whole point.
Comment on Altenweg's post
Thanks Alten, you are totally right. I have always done it. Why waste any more time on her its better to get moving on while I still have my looks. ;-)