Introduction to my post:

I hope no one has any objection but I am going through a folder of mine called The Rose Files where I keep things I have written or collected over the years and I would like to share it with you.

I am also open to questions about anything I post, so feel free.


Affirmations: Use To Cultivate Positive Thinking -

Improve the quality of your thoughts and you improve the quality of your life.


Affirmation Guidelines

Affirmation Intro ~

The most powerful affirmations have to come from you and your mind. Your subconscious mind knows the language of your mind. It understand how you think and speak. So to get the most out of affirmations you have to create them yourself. Then you have to understand how to use them properly. Most people don't know how to do this and end up creating affirmations that will never help them get what they want out of life.

Affirmations are a way to consciously utilize our internal dialogue to purposely create what we want in our lives. An affirmation should be stated in the present, as if it already exists and it should be repeated as often as possible, until it becomes a part of you more dominant thought process. Place the results in today, rather than the future.

Affirm only the desired result, without placing any hidden reference to undesired things. For example: Affirm that "My relationship is healthy and loving," rather than affirming "My boring relationship is getting better." Affirm what you want, rather than what you want to get rid of. Work with any subconscious fallout from your affirmations, but don't quit doing the affirmation.

Positive mind conditioning can cause all sorts of hidden subconscious material to surface. If you begin to experience negative feelings, or stubborn negative thoughts, it means the affirmations are producing results and shaking lose subconscious material. Work with these reactions by ventilating with a trusted person, writing in a personal journal, or seeking guidance.


Affirmations Example:

Positive statements created and repeated in order to cultivate a more positive attitude.

I don't analyse I utilize.

I deserve love and respect.

I am prosperous and happy.

I welcome change in my life.

I enjoy the simple things in life.

I create opportunities for myself.

I do things in order of importance.

I alone am in control of my destiny.

I have faith in my plans and projects.

I speak the truth and I seek the truth.

I contribute to the happiness of others.

I will ask for help if and when I need it.

I say goodbye to destructive influences.

I try to cherish every moment of my day.

I release myself from harmful judgments.

I am in control of my health and wellness.

I am honest and truthful in all I say and do.

I am getting better and better in every way.

I attract healthy, honest people into my life.

I forgive everyone I believe has wronged me.

I get adequate rest, exercise and nourishment.

I will reach out and take hold of this moment.

I remain relaxed as the drama washes over me.

I honour my integrity and the integrity of others.

I have the power to make my dreams come true.

I am deeply thankful for all that I have received.

I will bring more peace and harmony into my life.

I treat myself with love, kindness and compassion.

I may be alone from time to time but I am not lonely.

I am learning to rise above my baser needs and wants.

I ask for God's love and protection for all living things.

I am freeing my mind of negative and limiting thoughts.

I will heed my instincts and intuition and act accordingly.

I realise even big plans must be worked out in small steps.

I am learning to attract to myself only that which I desire.

I acknowledge my successes with gratitude and generosity.

I improve the quality of my life with every positive thought.

I forgive everyone who ever said or did anything to hurt me.

I deserve to experience everything that is good in the world.

I will cultivate more mental discipline and be more selective.

I alone am responsible for everything that happens in my life.

I do not have to be doing something every moment of the day.

I realise there are lessons to be learned in all my relationships.

The quality of my life will depend on the quality of my thoughts.

I choose to be calm rather than frantic when my day gets hectic.

I welcome all my feelings knowing they guide me to my true self.

I have a divine ability to manifest and attract all that I need and desire.

I meditate each day to increase my awareness of the divine power within me.

I accept myself as a person who makes mistakes and forgive myself for those mistakes.

I am overcoming obstacles and reaching my goals. I am focused and committed.

I voice my love and support for others rather than assuming that they know how I feel.

I focus on being thankful for what I have rather than complaining about what I do not have.

I release all feelings of jealousy and envy toward others and open heart to all good things.

I forgive myself for beliefs I've held that caused me to act in ways I regret. I now let go of the guilt.

I direct my thoughts to the good that's in my life for I realize that I attract to me that which I dwell upon.

I am grateful for every step in my self-development, and trust that I am moving forward at every moment.

My response to anxiety or fear is to take a moment to be still, to observe the sensation and to let it pass.

I am deeply thankful for all that I have received, and I enjoy giving to others in the spirit of love and service.

I am deeply connected to the divine universe, the source of inner peace, harmony, abundance and well-being.

I trust in the universal intelligence that created me to bring my desires to me in just the right way at the perfect time.

I create my own reality from the thoughts I entertain, and in order to change any part of that reality, I need only change what I am thinking.

I realize that I am not separate from my environment, I am one with my surroundings, aware of the connective energy between me and my world.

I choose to appreciate everything life brings me, and as my gratitude deepens, I feel more in harmony with my surroundings and with the people in my life.


And now here are 3 very important and powerful Affirmations ~

1) Body Heal Thy Self! ~: This one stops you from worrying and fretting about what might be wrong when you aren't feeling a hundred percent.

2) I'm Losing Weight And I Feel Great! ~: So you cheated on your diet. Don't beat yourself up too much. Try this very powerful affirmation instead.

3) I have God's love and protection all around me and in me now and for evermore. Amen ~: Try this one if you are feeling vulnerable or fearful.

Do you think positive affirmations can help a broken relationship?

Hi Bluerose,

Awesome! Thank you for posting this.I am sure it is going to help so many people like me.Could you please please help me with some positive affirmations for Breast growth?

Thank you Bluerose - again your writings are spectacular and full of wisdom.

Remember...

A basic need of all human beings is to make a positive contribution to the world and to our fellow beings, as well as to improve and enjoy our personal lives. We all have a great deal to offer the world and to each other, each in our own special and unique way. To a great degree, our own personal sense of well being is a function of how much we are expressing this. We each have a significant contribution to make in this lifetime.

Do you think playing affirmations when your sleeping helps you in that your relaxed and taking in the positive or do you think you just tune it out? I've been thinking about making a tape and playing it while sleeping but I sleep deep so I don't even know if I would really "hear" it or benefit from it.

Yes I do. A little preparation before bedtime will set the mood. Just like preparing for meditation - you might want to shower, wear something loose and comfortable, and make a little ceremony of setting up the tape player. Then finish with a short prayer asking for positive results. You can decide what suits you best but a little ceremony before hand helps to put us in the right frame of mind.

How do you get rid of nagging doubts in the background while you are making affirmations?

Do you have to fully believe what you are saying or will you start believing fully after you've said it enough times?

Nagging doubts?

Try to ignore them. Or, as I do when meditating, have a notepad and pen by you and make a note of it then state that you will return to take care of it once you have meditated, or affirmed.

Do you have to fully believe?

No. The secret is to trick your mind into believing in them until you do. There is no magic or trickery here. The affirmations are merely a tool, a list of positive statement created and repeated in order to cultivate positive thinking.

Okay Bluerose I have a stupid question.

How do you meditate? What I mean by that is I've tried to but just focus on calming down and thinking about something positive but when I try I have a hundred things running through my head, not necessarily negative but just about life like I've got to pay a bill or go get milk. Nothing major but nothing that I need to be thinking about at that time.

Do you play music? Do you say anything to yourself or do you just let a tape play of your affirmations?

Try this -

Meta Meditation

Use this simple meditation often to create and nurture compassion in your life. This can be practiced in just a few minutes, so try to incorporate it as a part of your daily life. Come into a comfortable seated position on the floor or in a chair. Sit with the back flat, crown of the head lifted, shoulders relaxed and chest open. Rest the hands in the lap or on the knees. Close the eyes, deepen the breath and release any thoughts from the mind. Gently repeat the following softly out loud or in your mind.

May my life be filled with ease.
May my body be healthy and strong.
May I be happy and peaceful of heart.
May I be safe from inner and outer harm.

Then you may replace the “I”s with “you”s, thinking of a specific person, a group of people or the whole planet. Finish with a few slow, deep breaths, feeling compassion, love and kindness flowing through your body. Take a moment or two before moving on with the rest of your day.


In the process of answering your question.
Some hints and tips to follow.

No question is a stupid question.
Only wise men ask questions.
Fools already know all the answers.

How do you meditate? Just sit. Don't think. Don't not think. Just Be. Simply allow your thoughts to flow, don't try to hold onto them. They will simply come and go, let them. You might find yourself easily distracted, by a sound perhaps. Let it go and just Be once again. It's a bit like counting to ten when you are trying to get to sleep, you begin to drift off and you lose count so you go back and start again, and again if need be. It will come but it takes time.

Do you play music? Depends how I feel, sometimes I just want the quietness.
Do you say anything to yourself? Depends how busy I have been. Sometimes I can come and just sit. Another time I might use a mantra to help focus my mind away from the events of the day.
Do you play a tape of affirmations? You could do but I prefer to keep things separate - relaxation, meditation and affirmations. Choose a time and a place for each of them.

Prepare yourself - It takes time to make it a part of your daily ritual and routine. It takes time for your brain to get used to the idea of what it is you are trying to do. You can help the process by preparing yourself for meditating. You might have something in particular that you would like to wear. You might like to burn a candle or incense. Perhaps ring a small bell to start and end the session. All this is to simply put you in the right frame of mind.

Then you wait - You continue with your meditation for weeks months years and you wait... Keeping a journal is a good idea, you might like to note down how you feel before and after meditation. You can use this to chart your progress.

I'm not great at it. But I can manage to just sit and picture all the thoughts flowing through my mind like floating silk scarves. Don't push and don't try, just do.

There are much more advanced methods but they take a lot of time and patience to master.


Check this out -

http://www.buddhanet.net/filelib/mp3/metta.mp3

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This might be strange for you but it works for me:
To clear my mind, I imagine myself sitting in an empty white room (white walls, floor, and ceiling). I imagine the room as my mind... empty and pure and clean from any clutter.
After a few minutes, I start noticing the rhythm of my breathing and my heart beat and that's when I know that I'm relaxed.

I believe it's a personal thing - whatever works for you is good. And if it isn't working or helping your process then experiment until you find something that does.

I'm not a religious person but I use this little prayer as a way of calming my mind from time to time. Some of you might find it useful too. I prefer to think of it as a little mantra.


I Trust In Thee ~

I am heartbroken, and my life is a mess.
God, deliver my soul, I trust in thee.
Heal my heart and alleviate my distress.
God, deliver my soul, I trust in thee.
I seek spiritual enlightenment from above.
God, deliver my soul, I trust in thee.
I put the past behind me and seek your love.
God, deliver my soul, I trust in thee.

I had a sudden thought while writing.

People tell us to try to be positive, I think I might even be guilty of it too. But that statement isn't very positive. We should simply tell them to...

Be more positive!

Negative thoughts are not wrong, they simply draw our attention to things that need our attention. Ignoring these nudges is what makes the outcome negative.

If you ignore the cracks in the walls, don't be surprised if the roof falls in.

I meditate by closing my eyes and just try to have a clear mind. I try to clear all my thoughts and worries and put them in a pretend heart shaped box that I can look at later. Hope this helps. Meditation is the key to changing your destiny. Trust me.

Bluerose... that's great, thanks for sharing this with all of use who read it :)

Am going to print it out.

Very thoughtful to post it on this forum.

Well done, highly appreciated.

When you meditate are you supposed to think about "nothing" and have a blank mind? My mind jumps all over the place and I don't know that I can sit and not think about nothing. That being said, if your trying and saying positive things to yourself, how do you ignore any other thoughts creeping in? Given the example above, can you just say my other thoughts are going into a box for now and that works without other thoughts?

Also do you think about the future or just about what your doing at the moment. When I lift I sometimes go through the motions and count the number of reps I'm going to do to sort of psych myself up and get my mind focused. But that's just 30 to 60 seconds and even then I sometimes lose focus. Is that the same type of thing for life strategies? In other words if you had an important business presentation would you mediatate about that or is that something entirely different because it's work related and might be stressful?

How long do each of you meditate for and how many times a week?

"How long do each of you meditate for and how many times a week?" - chuff

I feel most comfortable when I have the place to myself for meditating so I wait till my grandson has gone off to school. I do a quick tidy away of breakfast things and then light a candle and just sit with my eyes closed for around 30 minutes. I don't manage it every day. But if he goes off on a stay over at the weekend, I do the whole ritual bit; bath, dress for it, burn incense, light candles, ring a bell, and sometimes listen to a Buddhist chant that I like.

Check out these two.

http://www.buddhanet.net/filelib/mp3/metta.mp3

http://www.buddhanet.net/filelib/mp3/buddhistsong9.mp3