I will try and make this as short as possible. I would just like to here some thoughts. From 2004 up until 2009 I was with him for 5 yrs. Things were rocky, because he was out of work and my dad was terminally ill, but I was honest about my feelings and I always tried leave the communication door open good or bad. I really expected him to be by my side when I was dealing with my father's illness (RIP) but he wasn't in fact he was mean and said he didn't want to be around someone in a bad mood all the time. Which really was sadness.

Anyway it was really him talking with another woman in another state whom was making a plans to leave her boyfriend to come see him so he was making excuses to leave me and he did. He said he just needed to figure his life out and get it together but really he had her coming within the next week or so during thanksgiving.

Next thing you know two months later they want to get married that fast it happened yeah right? That blew me out of the water. Then in march 2010 he gets in contact I finally speak to him and he says they split up after 4mths and that he realized what he had and how sorry he was blah blah blah. So I thought this was it he is back and I was able to uncover the old feelings I had to bury to move on.

From march to August I caught him still talking to her and they claimed to be just friends( yeah they she said I love you in texts oh but it wasnt' like that they were just friendship love) . Which was very hard to stomach or believe I didn't want to be friends with him after he left me why would he want to be friends with her? Anyway he had a little thing called probation and he got sent to jail for violation and he was there for 3 months dec 2010 to march 2011. He wrote me everyday I went to see him every weekend I gave him money for his account and for the phone so we could talk and swore to me that I was the one and he wanted to be with me no one else.

I really wanted to believe this man I had been with for this many years did love me and was serious. He finally was eligible for bail and I bailed him out instantly I was supposed to see this changed man. I noticed right away that he was no different but a week later he was talking to her again and I flat out told him he had to let her go they carried on inappropiately for the whole year we were back to together and that they could not be trusted as friends so I said I cannot do this again. The very following day I busted him and her together at his mom's house I went over there to talk to him about his bond and that I didn't want to be on it anymore now that he betrayed my trust and I caught her there with him but both of them were too chicken **** to come out and face me. They had to call the cops on me because I was going to wait until his mom got home in hour or so. She called the cops on me and came out when they got there that is how I know it was her.

He was forced to come out and talk to the cops and he told them he didn't want me calling him or texting and what was I doing there and told them I needed my name off his bond so I wanted his mom to be the endemntor. My supirse was she was there already I just got him out of jail they had this planned and he was most likely writing and calling her from jail too. I left with the house and vowed I would never ever talk to him again.

Guess what a week goes by and that mf is texting me after he let that girl call the cops on his girlfriend. Saying I hope your doing OK and I'm thinking about you and I can't sleep I know you hate me just let me know. I cannot understand what is exactly is wrong with him if he thinks he can just erase what he did.

Im not really sure why you care about this person anymore. What to make him pay?

Hes never been good from what you've said. To leave you in your time of need for someone else.

Then when that doesn't work, come crawling back. And you believed that? Big mistake.

Then he did it again. Used you. Screwed you twice. But, it takes two, right?

Never, ever talk to him or anything else, ever again.

Don't worry about him erasing what he did. Karma will prevail.

One way of making sure that happens is to live well, treat others the same & leave this &%$()#@! In the dust.

Live drama free.

Tell him to get stuffed.

Change your number, cut all ties and move on.

Seriously how many more times in your life are you going to be dragged back by the two faced lying s.o.b?

Why are you even taking his calls, texts, or anything else from him??

Make that a clean break and have no more contact whatsoever.

100% NO CONTACT-get the life you deserve-and it does n o t include this poor excuse for a man.

Just want to thank everyone for the comments. Just so everyone's knows I have not been in contact at all since this happened last month. I have stayed strong. I do have residual feelings I am trying to dissolve it just takes a while to heal. I just think there is something pure evil about someone who thinks they can act as though nothing happened I would keep my distance or feel ashamed. That was the ultimate betrayal and he hit the last nail in the coffin for me. That woman he was with thinks this demonstration of unfaithfulness is appealing I hope she gets it too. She did a lot to entice him and she showed a blatant disrespect but he didn't stop it either and he is to blame for not setting her straight. Yes it took two but I had feelings involved so I had a weak spot for him it was almost 7 yrs hard to get away from that but yes he used me and that is weird because its not like we just met. He uses her a lot too that I know so he is her problem now. I will live well I have heard that is the best revenge. Thanks

Good, stay strong and live well, for y o u, never mind revenge.

What is wrong with him? What is wrong with you? He has betrayed your trust, been banging this girl on the side, been ungrateful to your efforts while you were helping him at a time of crisis, and you are still going after him? Have some self respect and get your name off that bond and leave him alone, don't ever talk, text, or email him because that guy is worthless. He wasn't even there for you when you were having a big emotional issue with your father and somehow you want to be with him. What do you expect? If you don't have any respect for yourself how do you expect him to have any respect at all for you and the things you have done for him. Leave, find someone else, even being alone would be better than being with someone like him, and live your life elsewhere.

Good Luck,
Javi

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even being alone would be better than being with someone like him, and live your life elsewhere.

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I couldn't agree more!!

I understand how it looks and I have no intention of ever ever having anything to do with him again. This is just about acceptance for me dealing with what I put with and also what happened was horrible for me. Believe me when I say I fought Over it every step of the way but he blamed me for always being mad at him when I should have just left but now its done. Now on the other hand I don't know what is wrong with him he is the biggest creep I have met yet he hid it for years. I don't want him back at all I just cannot believe he has the nerve to even try to talk to me he is so heartless. I am a lot more upset than I sound but I know its my mistake for taking him back and I def paid for it in the end. I just think he should have had it coming not me.

Look at it this way,

He already got what he deserved. Losing a good person like you. Now that's Karma.

And now you can live happily without a jerk to worry about. He's someone else's problem now.

"he is the biggest creep I have met yet he hid it for years"

See?