OK, I'm hoping someone out there can help me! Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost a year. Im 19 and he's 26 now, at first our sex life was awesome and constant. Of course I know it'll dim down a little but now I've noticed its only once or twice a week. Not only that, I'm the only one initiating the sex. I feel very unwanted and I'm not sure how to solve this problem. Ive talked to him but he seems to think its OK but, I've never had this problem before and men constantly try to get in my pants so I'm not sure what's going on with him. Can someone help me, or explain this to me?

Its time to initiate other things besides sex, and get involved in other areas of a healthy relationship. The lust has worn off, and you should be bonding on other levels besides the sex.

Don't feel bad, many females make the mistake of thinking all a guy wants is to get in your pants, but us fellows need a lot more than just sex to keep us interested.

What, you thought that's what we are about, just a piece of meet to be used for your own pleasure?? Think again, and find out what else real men are made of!!

Do you shave or wax your bush? Or re-style your hair? Try these things. I know that would get me go'in. Maybee he's just tired of the same old thing, day in and day out. Try something new to get him excited. Or just walk up, grab his penis, and say "let's f**k".

I'm willing to guess at 26. He isn't intellectually stimulated by a teenager.

At 26 he is in a much more mature crowd than someone fresh out of high school.

He is probably looking for someone he can relate to in other ways than sex , or is trolling the high schools looking for a replacement for you.

Sex isn't the only thing in a relationship. Nor is it the only way to show intimacy and affection. If you equate love with sex, then you don't know what love is. If the desire to 'get in your pants' is the way you measure attraction, then you are missing the more subtle signs like caresses and glances. If sex is the only form of intimacy that you recognize, then you are missing out on quiet moments that last a lifetime and fill your whole being with warmth and contentment.

If you can't stay faithful to your partner, then the problem isn't him. It is you and your perception of what a relationship is.

If you have to initiate sex now is it because you controlled when you first started having sex? Has he gotten to where there is no point in initiating anything because you will turn him down?

Does he have other things going on in his life besides having sex with you? Things like a job, family, friends, school, etc. Is he tired or preoccupied, perhaps stressed?

I have to somewhat agree with Cat, but my first question to you Eve, is, does he love you? Do you love him?

Maybee the lust of a new relationship has wore off. Ask him if he love's you. Don't be afraid. Most men will not tell you, or say anything, unless you ask.

Does he do things for you? For example: give you back rubs,massages,hold your hand, and the best is snuggling on the sofa, just smelling your hair or occasional necking? These are good indications he truly loves you.