My Gf likes another guy. But tried and "got" over him for me.
My Gf likes another guy. But tried and "got" over him for me.
Hi my name is josh. I live in Florida. And I'm 23
Me and my girlfriend has been together for over a year (about a year and 3 months now)
And we had a bumpy relationship here and there like for example - she would be hanging out all night with her friend girl and wouldn't call me even though she promised, and me being very worried.
When I say "why?"she says I'm too cligy and I'm putting her on a leash. I was like "OK...."
Never the less over the course of a year she showed a lot of love and affection to me and I fell deeply in love with her. We talked a lot about living together and getting married once in a while in a very innocent sweet way.
But about a month or so ago me and her made a mutual friend who is into music and like going to shows. He is 4 years older then me. Me and her are very much into music ourselves so we all got along, even hung out multiple times all together over the course of the month.
And one time when I wasn't able to go to a show with them she went with just him. Next week she cracks and tells me that she likes him and told him when she got drunk with him after show. She said she wants to get over it because "nothing good is going to come out of it" and he told me that he doesn't want anything to do with it and is not going to hang out with her.any longer.
When I heard that my heart swell with pain I broke up with her. It wasn't long before we talked again because I couldn't get over her, she said she needs a month to think about things and get over him. I agreed. During these two weeks we were fighting here and there because I was really hurt and still very confused about why she did that even though she told me I'm a love of her life countless times before...
So I find out today that they were still occasionally talking to each other during these "two weeks of decision", and she said that she called him yesterday to talk about how she should stop liking him because it won't be good for anyone. On that note she says that even though she liked him she wants to get over and she loves only me, saying she has feelings for me and wants to be in a relationship still and is very sorry. She wants to "rebuild" things between us and start over.
I don't know what to do, I instinctively forgave her because I love her a bit too much for my own good but did I make a good decision?? I feel in a lot of pain still but she says its only natural and I should be more forgiving... what should I do?
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I'm going crazy. Its only been a day since. I told her that I can't trust her anymore so we should still be together but have nothing serious. Is this safe?
We had sex tonight for the first time since I found out and I'm losing my head, she now comfortably says "i love you" and acting just the way we used too... I feel like I made a choice and now its too late to turn back... because I'm almost "okay" with it already and I'm getting sucked back into her smile, kisses and kind words.
I made it pretty clear about "free" relationship from now on because I realize now that I don't want to have anything serious with her. I think she pretty much agreed. I just still want be with her there are so many things we planned for this summer to do.. I'm still not sure god dammit
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She's over him now and he won't contact her for sure
... is there no way I can't give her a second chance?
She wants to be friends and we had sex because we both wanted...